{"id":8357,"date":"2025-11-16T09:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-11-16T10:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/?p=8357"},"modified":"2025-11-19T21:34:54","modified_gmt":"2025-11-19T21:34:54","slug":"i-couldnt-hold-my-hair-dryer-then-came-my-terminal-diagnosis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/index.php\/2025\/11\/16\/i-couldnt-hold-my-hair-dryer-then-came-my-terminal-diagnosis\/","title":{"rendered":"I couldn\u2019t hold my hair dryer \u2013 then came my terminal diagnosis"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\n\t\t\"Debbie\t<\/div>
I googled my symptoms and the first thing that came up was Stephen Hawking \u2013 that was when the dread truly settled in (Picture: Debbie Whitehouse)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I looked down at the whirring hair dryer in my hand, perplexed. <\/p>\n

I was a hairdresser \u2013 I spent my days styling and cutting hair, but suddenly my right arm felt so weak, I couldn\u2019t hold the hair dryer up a second longer. It was as if it were made of lead. <\/p>\n

At first, I thought I\u2019d slept funny. Or maybe I was getting older and weaker \u2013 especially since it was the lightest dryer on the market.<\/p>\n

I knew at that moment that something really wasn\u2019t right. <\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t the first time I\u2019d had trouble with my strength. The signs had started six months earlier when I couldn\u2019t push myself out of the bath easily.<\/p>\n

I\u2019d been struggling to hold the hair dryer for long periods, and on one occasion, my colleague had noticed my arm twitching. <\/p>\n

I shrugged these moments off, putting them down to stress, being 55 years old, maybe even the menopause<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It was only when, on that same day, my speech started to slur that I knew something wasn\u2019t right. <\/p>\n

The fear began to creep in. I googled my symptoms and the first thing that came up was Stephen Hawking<\/a>. That was when the dread truly settled in. I couldn\u2019t bring myself to tell anyone, other than my best friend \u2013 I was terrified.<\/p>\n

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\n\t\t\"Debbie\t<\/div>
One day in September 2022, the neurologist delivered the unthinkable news: \u2018You have motor neurone disease\u2019 (Picture: Debbie Whitehouse)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

A few days later \u2013 on August 22 2021 \u2013 I rang my GP to discuss my symptoms of vertigo. That\u2019s when she told me to call 999, and that I was having a stroke.<\/p>\n

Terrified, I went to hospital and went through six months of endless tests: blood work, MRIs, lumber puncture and scans.<\/p>\n

Then there were the misdiagnoses. First they thought it was menopause. Then a stroke. Then multiple sclerosis.<\/p>\n

Finally, one day in September 2022, the neurologist delivered the unthinkable news: \u2018You have motor neurone disease\u2019. <\/p>\n

I was told that 50% of people with MND die within three years<\/a>; 90% within 10. There\u2019s no cure and nothing to slow it down.<\/p>\n

In the moments that followed, my first thought was of my children. I\u2019m a single mum to three grown kids and I\u2019ve always been their rock, their support. But at that moment, all I could think about was that I might not be there for them much longer.<\/p>\n

I was terrified of leaving them to face life without me. <\/p>\n

Three years on, I\u2019m one of the \u2018lucky\u2019 ones who have made it this far \u2013 but I can feel myself deteriorating every day<\/a>, asking for more help. <\/p>\n

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\n\t\t\"Debbie\t<\/div>
It breaks my heart to think about my children one day having to care for me (Picture: Debbie Whitehouse)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Now, I can no longer dress myself, cook for myself, or even get out of bed on my own. <\/p>\n

My arms are completely paralysed, my fingers are curling and I can\u2019t lift my head without help. My torso and neck are losing strength, and I can\u2019t even stand on my own anymore. <\/p>\n

My lung strength is down to 50%, so I rely on a machine to help me breathe at night, and I choke every time I eat. And just recently, I’ve had the operation for a PEG tube to feed me because swallowing will become impossible.<\/p>\n

The thing I dread every day is when my voice will go, because I don\u2019t know how I will express myself, or tell my family I love them.<\/p>\n

It breaks my heart to think about my children one day having to care for me in ways I never imagined. <\/p>\n

As their mother, I\u2019ve always been their protector. Now, I\u2019m the one who needs their help. <\/strong><\/p>\n

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\n\t\t\"Debbie\t<\/div>
When I explain my condition to people, they often ask, \u2018Oh, you\u2019ve got MS, right?\u2019 (Picture: Debbie Whitehouse)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

My children have been so strong. I\u2019ve had the discussion that I don\u2019t want them to put their lives on hold just because of me but that I will fight this for as long as I can. They understand, but watching silently while the person they love deteriorates is traumatic. <\/p>\n

When I explain my condition to people, they often ask, \u2018Oh, you\u2019ve got MS, right?\u2019 They don\u2019t know what MND is, or how brutal it is. <\/p>\n

This is a disease that takes everything from you<\/a>, slowly – and the fact that people don\u2019t even understand what it is hurts just as much as the disease itself.<\/p>\n

Among my own social circle, I know eight other women hairdressers with MND. These women \u2013 daughters, mothers, friends, wives \u2013 are all being forgotten in this fight, as we feel that too much of the MND focus is around men, particularly elite sportsmen. <\/p>\n

When I was diagnosed, I vowed to make a difference. I wanted my story to be something that raised awareness. So last year I started a Facebook<\/a> support group for women with MND called MND QUEENS. <\/p>\n

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\n\t\t\"Debbie\t<\/div>
No one should have to go through what I\u2019m going through (Picture: Debbie Whitehouse)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

It\u2019s a group for women with and, who have been affected by MND. We support each other, talk about MND care, menopause, treatment equipment, our families, accessibility, mental health<\/a> and so much more. We even have our own t-shirts!<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve also worked with the MND Association on their #teammnda campaign, as well as fundraising for research and advocacy.<\/p>\n

The association has really helped me since being diagnosed, but it is significantly underfunded. <\/p>\n

No one should have to go through what I\u2019m going through, left to watch my body deteriorate, one part at a time. <\/p>\n

We need to do more<\/a>. <\/p>\n

The more that people understand what this disease does to people, the more money we can raise to find a cure. So I write this not for sympathy, but to raise awareness, and to make sure my children know that I fought to find that cure. <\/p>\n

Because no one should ever have to hear those words: \u2018You have MND\u2019 \u2013 and I will fight to the end for people living with this disease. <\/p>\n

Do you have a story you\u2019d like to share? Get in touch by emailing Ross.Mccafferty@metro.co.uk<\/a>.<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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