{"id":325,"date":"2025-03-15T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-03-15T09:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/?p=325"},"modified":"2025-03-19T21:33:33","modified_gmt":"2025-03-19T21:33:33","slug":"i-spent-10-years-in-excruciating-pain-until-i-left-the-uk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/index.php\/2025\/03\/15\/i-spent-10-years-in-excruciating-pain-until-i-left-the-uk\/","title":{"rendered":"I spent 10 years in excruciating pain \u2013 until I left the UK"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure class=\"img-container shareable-item wp-caption\">\n<div class=\"img-wrap\">\n\t\t<img width=\"646\" height=\"455\" src=\"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/SEI_234686258-39bb-e1735733294361.jpg\" class=\"article-image wp-image-22277328\" alt=\"Emma Kemsley: Leaving the UK improved my health\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t<\/div><figcaption>We officially moved to Spain in June 2023 with our dog (Picture: Emma Kemsley)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Looking at the sun glistening on the water, I braced myself as a wave <strong>roared<\/strong> towards me.<\/p>\n<p>I paddled, then jumped up onto my board, feeling only exhilaration as I <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/07\/25\/olympics-2024-surfing-beastly-waves-a-floating-athletes-village-21293894\/\">surfed<\/a> the wave to the shore.<\/p>\n<p>Six months prior, this would have been unimaginable \u2013 I would have been lying in bed screaming in pain due to severe stage 4 <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/tag\/endometriosis\/\">endometriosis<\/a>. My torturous symptoms not only affected my fertility and organs but my daily life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Moving to <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/tag\/spain\/\">Spain<\/a> has changed everything.<\/p>\n<p>For the first time in over a decade, I am pain free. I can exercise without collapsing, eat without rushing to the toilet. And instead of surviving on a concoction of pain medication, mountain hikes, boxing classes and weekly surf lessons form my new routine.<\/p>\n<div class=\"factbox\" data-ico=\"factbox_article\" data-track-module=\"factbox_article\">\n<h2 class=\"factbox-title\">\n\t\t\t\tSymptoms of endometriosis\t\t\t<\/h2>\n<div class=\"factbox-content\">\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Severe period pain <\/li>\n<li>Pain when you urinate or poo during your period <\/li>\n<li>Heavy periods that can see you changing your pad or tampon every 1-2 hours <\/li>\n<li>Pain during or after sex<\/li>\n<li>Pain in your pelvic area<\/li>\n<li>Fatigue <\/li>\n<\/ul><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p>For 10 years since the age of 17 I visited the GP every month with excruciating <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/10\/09\/period-pain-debilitating-school-need-take-young-women-seriously-21764547\/\">pain during my period<\/a>. I was always told it was \u2018normal\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>As time progressed, the pain became unmanageable. I missed work, was bed-bound and even vomited or blacked out from the pain.<\/p>\n<p>Then, in 2013, I was rushed to hospital with severe abdominal pain. A scan revealed I had a 15cm ovarian cyst. I was given a<a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/03\/06\/getting-harder-get-endometriosis-diagnosis-uk-20405538\/\"> laparoscopy<\/a> \u2013 a procedure where a thin tube with a camera is inserted into the body \u2013 which confirmed stage 4 endometriosis, the highest grade of the condition.<\/p>\n<p>My <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/tag\/fertility\/\">fertility<\/a> had already been compromised; I was 27.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"img-container shareable-item wp-caption\">\n<div class=\"img-wrap\">\n\t\t<img width=\"646\" height=\"426\" src=\"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/SEI_234686165-5b6e-e1735816272763.jpg\" class=\"article-image wp-image-22277327\" alt=\"Emma Kemsley: Leaving the UK improved my health\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t<\/div><figcaption>I was naively under the impression I could be cured (Picture: Emma Kemsley)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Endometriosis is a condition where cells like the ones in the lining of the uterus are found elsewhere in the body. It usually affects the ovaries and fallopian tubes but can also be found on organs such as the bowel and bladder. Sadly, it affects 1 in 10 women and takes an average of eight years and 10 months from the first GP visit to <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/12\/27\/gp-called-attention-seeking-waited-22-years-a-diagnosis-22206098\/\">get a diagnosis<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The pain I\u2019d experienced is a common symptom, as are painful periods, heavy menstrual bleeding, fatigue, painful bowel movements and <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/12\/27\/im-overwhelmed-mum-of-four-endometriosis-sex-challenging-22159091\/\">pain during sex<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Following my diagnosis, I was naively under the impression I could be cured, but there is no known cure for endometriosis. Following diagnostic surgery, most patients are advised to manage symptoms with hormone treatments. Radical surgery is an option in severe cases.<\/p>\n<p>I was told to start <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/tag\/ivf\/\">IVF<\/a> immediately as <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/tag\/pregnancy\/\">pregnancy<\/a> would help symptoms \u2013 but what followed was 10 years of hell.<\/p>\n<p>My endometriosis was aggressive, spreading like wildfire to my bowel, colon, rectum and bladder. I underwent four private surgeries, my fallopian tubes were removed and I was hospitalised repeatedly with pain and ovarian infections.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"img-container shareable-item wp-caption\">\n<div class=\"img-wrap\">\n\t\t<img width=\"646\" height=\"548\" src=\"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/SEI_234686167-b7c4-e1735733627852.jpg\" class=\"article-image wp-image-22277326\" alt=\"Emma Kemsley: Leaving the UK improved my health\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t<\/div><figcaption>I started to look at life with a new perspective (Picture: Emma Kemsley)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>I also experienced nine failed cycles of IVF. One resulted in an early <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/12\/31\/myleene-klass-unacceptable-women-miscarriages-treated-today-22273158\/\">miscarriage<\/a>, and another a <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/08\/31\/live-uk-travel-hundreds-miles-abortion-21362725\/\">termination for medical reasons<\/a> at 21 weeks, during peak lockdown. Following this loss, I was hospitalised with <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/10\/11\/neglect-nhs-staff-contributed-death-girl-13-sepsis-21781869\/\">sepsis<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The next step was complex surgery, which involved a bowel, rectum and bladder reconstruction, potentially resulting in a permanent <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/09\/22\/matt-forde-opens-colostomy-bag-stoma-life-changing-cancer-surgery-21649235\/\">colostomy bag<\/a>. I was terrified of my life changing so much at only 37.<\/p>\n<p>Around this time, my mum suddenly passed away. It was then I started to look at life with a new perspective.<\/p>\n<p>Though I was mentally, physically and financially broken, I didn\u2019t want to be defined by a disease. I felt there had to be another solution to fixing my endometriosis and as they say a change is as good as a rest, I decided to test the theory.<\/p>\n<p>In September 2022, my husband and I decided we wanted to move to Spain. We\u2019d previously lived in <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/07\/11\/stayed-ibizas-iconic-hotel-this-really-like-21100438\/\">Ibiza<\/a> for a year in 2016, and knew we loved the slower pace and outdoor lifestyle.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"img-container shareable-item wp-caption\">\n<div class=\"img-wrap\">\n\t\t<img width=\"646\" height=\"507\" src=\"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/SEI_234686257-ba3a-e1735816397452.jpg\" class=\"article-image wp-image-22277329\" alt=\"Emma Kemsley: Leaving the UK improved my health\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t<\/div><figcaption>We knew we loved the slower pace and outdoor lifestyle (Picture: Emma Kemsley)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>It wasn\u2019t easy: <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/tag\/brexit\/\">Brexit<\/a> made moving abroad challenging. We researched visa options and found a route that worked for us. Luckily my husband holds an EU passport, and I was able to apply for residency as a non-EU family member.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>We spent a summer in Andalusia, exploring the region\u2019s stunning natural landscapes and Pueblos Blancos, the white, hilltop villages. We visited different cities and coastlines, before settling on the beautiful foodie city of <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/05\/05\/a-foodier-version-barcelona-try-this-gorgeous-basque-city-20779693\/\">San Sebasti\u00e1n<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>While we settled into our Spanish way of life, I noticed my health significantly improving. I reduced my reliance on painkillers, transitioning from frequent morphine use in the UK to occasional paracetamol.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After a long, complicated process with mounds of paperwork \u2013 my residency took eight months to complete alone \u2013 we finally got the green light on our residency application and officially moved to Spain in June 2023 with our dog.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<figure class=\"img-container shareable-item wp-caption\">\n<div class=\"img-wrap\">\n\t\t<img width=\"646\" height=\"469\" src=\"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/SEI_234686164-740d-e1735816481606.jpg\" class=\"article-image wp-image-22277330\" alt=\"Emma Kemsley: Leaving the UK improved my health\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t<\/div><figcaption>I followed in Spanish footsteps and prioritised life and health (Picture: Emma Kemsley)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>My daily routine became so much slower. Instead of waking up, taking a painkiller and trudging across a muddy field with the dog, only to be in pain hours later while struggling at the laptop, I\u2019d wake up, enjoy a leisurely coffee on the terrace then take a long dog-walk on the beach, before settling down to work from home as a freelance editor.<\/p>\n<p>Rather than eight hours at the laptop, I followed in Spanish footsteps and prioritised life and health. I took little breaks strolling around the city or had lunch at a local bar.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>A lunchtime surf is something I could only have ever dreamt of before, but now it\u2019s become my reality.<\/p>\n<p>My stress and endometriosis pain has eased, allowing me to move more and feel healthier; I drove a lot in the UK, now I usually walk everywhere. While fatigue persisted, it became less frequent and my daily <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2024\/07\/27\/drug-addiction-took-life-24-went-icy-swim-21301584\/\">cold swims<\/a> in the sea have reduced my inflammation.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"img-container shareable-item wp-caption\">\n<div class=\"img-wrap\">\n\t\t<img width=\"646\" height=\"444\" src=\"http:\/\/curiousdrive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/SEI_234686170-ae98-e1735816563646.jpg\" class=\"article-image wp-image-22277325\" alt=\"Emma Kemsley: Leaving the UK improved my health\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t<\/div><figcaption>For the first time, my condition was dormant (Picture: Emma Kemsley)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>My diet has also changed drastically. I eat smaller portions thanks to San Sebasti\u00e1n&#8217;s signature <em>pintxos<\/em> (tiny, tasty bites, usually a small piece of bread with a delicious topping). As supermarkets only stock produce that\u2019s in season, there are fewer instant food and frozen products, which encourages me to cook from scratch.<\/p>\n<p>One year ago, I would never have been able to survive on a diet of cava and jam\u00f3n \u2013 they would\u2019ve caused extreme pain \u2013 but now I enjoy them.<\/p>\n<p>I asked my endometriosis consultant earlier this year how such improvement could be possible. His instant explanation was \u2018the produce.\u2019 He believes the quality of the food is having a significant impact on reducing my inflammation and therefore my symptoms.<\/p>\n<p>And this summer, my annual endometriosis MRI showed no progression or new adhesions. For the first time, my condition was dormant.<\/p>\n<section class=\"metro-comment-cta\">\n<div class=\"metro-comment-cta__inner\"><span class=\"metro-comment-cta__text-wrap\"><title>Comment now<\/title><span class=\"metro-comment-cta__text\">Have you made a drastic change to improve your health? Share your story below<\/span><\/span><a class=\"metro-comment-cta__button\" href=\"#metro-comments-container\">Comment Now<\/a><\/div>\n<\/section>\n<p>While I am not cured, and I take a hormone pill daily, I am stable. Plus I was overjoyed to be removed from the surgery list \u2013 I cried happy tears.<\/p>\n<p>I believe a slower, healthier lifestyle in the sunshine has significantly improved my endometriosis and I only wish I\u2019d done it sooner.<\/p>\n<p>This isn\u2019t to say that a move abroad is necessarily going to help every other endometriosis sufferer, but I believe my experience can help people who want to make positive lifestyle changes.<\/p>\n<p>The UK&#8217;s fast pace isn&#8217;t essential; slow down and say no to extra commitments. It might take longer to walk to the store or gym, but do it. You\u2019ll get exercise, a healthy dose of fresh air and feel better for it.<\/p>\n<p>Shop at your local weekly market; make it an enjoyable, slow-living experience. Join a local wild swimming group and reap the benefits of cold-water therapy.<\/p>\n<p>Two years ago, I was in constant pain. I&#8217;m living proof that significant improvement is possible, and that a change really is as good as a rest!<\/p>\n<p><em>This article was originally published January 4, 2025<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>Do you have a story you\u2019d like to share? Get in touch by emailing <a href=\"mailto:ross.mccarthy@metro.co.uk\" data-type=\"mailto\" data-id=\"mailto:ross.mccarthy@metro.co.uk\">Ross.Mccafferty@metro.co.uk<\/a><a href=\"mailto:Ross.Mccafferty@metro.co.uk\" data-type=\"mailto\" data-id=\"mailto:Ross.Mccafferty@metro.co.uk\">.<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>Share your views in the comments below.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We officially moved to Spain in June 2023 with our dog (Picture: Emma Kemsley) Looking at the sun glistening on the water, I braced myself as a wave roared towards me. I paddled, then jumped up onto my board, feeling only exhilaration as I surfed the wave to the shore. 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