Therapists are begging you not to say these 4 phrases to your toxic parents

Mother and daughter after an argument
Therapy speak can do more harm than good at home (Picture: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

Alright, show of hands – who here is in therapy because of their parents?

If you didn’t raise your hand and haven’t ever thought of your parents’ behaviour as toxic, then congrats. But if you’re waving your arm in the air wildly right now, then you’ll want to keep reading. 

That’s because a therapist has shared some thoughts on the best way to communicate your emotions and set boundaries with your family – and she claims it’s important to avoid ‘therapy speak’.

So while it might be tempting to accuse your mum of ‘gaslighting’ you, or tell your dad that you’re ‘protecting your peace’, it could actually end up doing more harm than good. 

While we might understand this language, the older generation isn’t necessarily as in tune with it and so it ends up being rather ‘triggering’ for them.

Seems rather ironic that the ones who trigger us are triggered by our healing journey, but according to LJ Jones, it’s the unfortunate truth.

Two women in armchairs are sitting and talking
You might understand the language from therapy, but it can be triggering for others (Picture: Getty Images)

‘Many parents were raised in a time when emotional intelligence and open communication about feelings were largely unheard of,’ Jones, an author and accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, tells Metro

‘When we use psychological terms others don’t understand, it can sound clinical or critical and that triggers defensiveness instead of self-reflection and accountability.’

She explains that therapy phrases can’t just be thrown around, they need to be translated to hold proper meaning. 

‘Translation is the ability to express therapeutic insight in a way that others can understand, relate to, and perhaps also learn to assess their own behaviours and areas for growth.’

Mother and her teenage son arguing at home
The language you use can create a barrier (Picture: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

If you were to shout that your parents were ‘emotionally immature’ during an argument, this could create tension and cause upset – so it’s up to you whether language becomes a ‘bridge or a barrier’.

‘You can still protect your wellbeing and set boundaries, but connection can depend on how you say it,’ Jones continues.

‘Many parents avoid accountability and clients feel they are left with no choice but to arrive at estrangement, however, if you have parents who are willing to engage in open communication and restorative discussions, be sure to speak on a level with them rather than flooding them with new lexicon.’

A family have a heated debate around a kitchen table
You’re more likely to be heard by your parents if you speak in a way they understand (Picture: Getty Images)

Therapy speak to avoid using on your parents

She went on to share four examples of therapy speak that will ‘alienate’ your parents, and some ‘gentler, more impactful’ alternative things to say instead…

I’m protecting my peace

Instead try: I need some time to calm down, can we talk later?’

You’re emotionally immature

Instead try: I find it hard to talk about emotions between us – can we try a different approach?

You’re gaslighting me

Instead try: When my feelings are dismissed, I feel unseen. Can I explain what I meant?

I need to set boundaries

Instead try: I’m trying to find balance in my life to support my wellbeing, I hope you’ll understand.

‘The goal isn’t to silence yourself, it’s to be heard,’ Jones adds.

‘True healing and connection happens when self-awareness meets compassion and both parties are willing to do the work.’

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Bottles of Aldi wine with the Drink Up logo
Aldi’s new wine range has some pretty impressive options (Picture: Getty Images/fStop)

Aldi has just casually launched its most premium wine range yet, just in time for Christmas.

And look, I appreciate the words ‘Aldi’ and ‘super premium’ don’t usually get uttered in the same sentence, but in the retailer’s own words, ‘shoppers can now sip like sommeliers without breaking the bank’.

They definitely had my attention at the last part of that sentence…

The new range includes high-end classics like Chablis Premier Cru, Sancerre and Châteauneuf-du-Pape, alongside a Rioja Gran Reserva and a Napa Cabernet Sauvignon and somehow prices start from just £6.29.

These are the kinds of wines you’d usually source from a wine merchant as they rely on factors like vintage, producer and site-specific vineyards. 

Aldi's most premium wine range to date, picture shows bottles of wine in the range, some nibbles and a glass
It’s the retailer’s most premium wine range ever (Picture: Aldi)

What is ‘premium’ wine?

To put ‘premium’ wines into perspective, they are typically produced in smaller quantities, by independent producers, from grapes grown in famously coveted regions around the world.

They’re usually made as vintage wines, meaning the grapes have to have been grown in the year stated on the bottle (or usually 85% do), from the better vineyard plots and they showcase a high level of provenance and grape varietal specificity.

Many are organic or biodynamic, shunning the use of chemicals in favour of sustainable methods. All of these factors push up the price.

This is the opposite to Aldi’s successful business model of working with top tier cooperatives across the world to procure their value wines. They tend to purchase in such high volumes that it means they can negotiate the best possible prices. Hence, my jaw is constantly on the floor when I attend their tastings.

What’s in Aldi’s new wine range?

There are 16 different wines in the new premium range, across red, white and rosé and they span a good number of the globe’s finer wine-producing countries – we’re talking Italy, Spain, France, United States and South Africa.

The selection includes the kind of appellations you’d find on Michelin Star wine lists or tucked away in private cellars of the annoyingly wealthy.

Prices for these bottles range from £6.29 to £21.99 at Aldi, which is remarkably cheaper than you’d find them in fancy restaurants.

Now, because I associate Aldi with the budget side of the wine world, I was curious to dip into this range and see what I thought. And full disclosure, I was sceptical going into it.

But after tasting the entire range, I’ve hand-selected five wines from a decent spread of price points and interest levels that I think should be on your shopping list on the run-up to Christmas.

Here’s the best of the bunch…

Specially Selected Stellenbosch Chardonnay, South Africa, (£6.29, 75cl)

Specially Selected Stellenbosch Chardonnay, South Africa
This is the top buy from the range (Picture: Aldi)

Located east of Cape Town, Stellenbosch is looked at as one of South Africa’s finest winemaking regions. It’s sun kissed, so it tends to produce wines with ripe, vibrant aromas and flavours, with phenomenal freshness. This one was the major standout of the range for me, with rich, mineral and voluptuous flavours of nectarine, peach and mango with a balancing spritz of lime on the finish. It actually impressed me more than a bottle I recently tried in a fancy restaurant, which cost £125.

Specially Selected Chablis Premier Cru, France,(£21.99, 75cl)

Specially Selected Chablis Premier Cru, France
Much cheaper than the £1,175 version at Claridge’s (Picture: Aldi)

A Chablis Premier Cru is currently on the list at Claridge’s Hotel for £1,175. That’s extreme, but Premier Cru is a massive step up in quality to regular Chablis. The vineyard sites (climats) with the best soil and climate are reserved for Premier Cru status. Aldi’s is a whisper of Claridge’s price tag, yet has elegance, minerality and Chablis’s typical tension, with flavours of tangerine, yellow plum and Golden Delicious apple crumble.

Specially Selected Cigales Rosé, Spain (£8.99, 75cl)

Specially Selected Cigales Ros?, Spain
This drink matches phenomentally well with all food (Picture: Aldi)

Just call me the Graped Crusader, as I’m the biggest advocate for rosé being consumed in all seasons, as it’s by far the most versatile style of wine you’ll find. This is from northeastern Spain, with bright red fruit and precise zing-factor, making it a true gastro-rosé. It’s a term I’ve literally just coined, as it matches phenomenally well with all things foodie. Try this with your turkey and trimmings in a few weeks and thank me later.

Specially Selected Moldovan Rară Neagră (£7.99, 75cl)

Specially Selected Moldovan Rar??Neagr?
This wine is fruit-tastic (Picture: Aldi)

This is one of the real stars of the show, but strap yourself in for something different. First of all, this wine is from Moldova, made from a rare Transylvanian grape called Rară Neagră (rara-nee-egg-ra). Moldova has an established winemaking history stretching back 3,000 years, and you can tell. This is fruit-tastic, with lashings of crunchy plum and blackberry flavours, and a more serious line of cedar-like oak running through it.

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Story from Jam Press (Toddler Lazy Eye) Pictured: Harper Gibson battling brain cancer. ?We thought our toddler had a lazy eye ? two days later she was having emergency brain surgery? The parents of a little girl who they believed may have a lazy eye have spoken out to raise awareness after the tot was diagnosed with brain cancer. Harper Gibson had been exhibiting ?tiny? symptoms that something was amiss this summer, and a video of the two-year-old with what appeared to be a lazy eye prompted her parents to take her to see an optician. The eye test ?changed everything?, and Harper was immediately referred to the hospital for further testing. Just two days later, she was undergoing a seven-hour surgery to remove a 1.5-square-inch tumour from her brain. A biopsy confirmed her parents, George and Laura?s, worst fears, and Harper has been bravely facing gruelling treatment ever since. ?No parent is ever prepared for that moment,? George, from Staffordshire, told NeedToKnow of the day Harper was diagnosed. ?It?s a kind of pain that rips through you in silence. ?You want to scream, cry, do anything to take it away from them, but you can?t. ?That night, we both remember feeling like the world had stopped. ?Everything that used to matter suddenly meant nothing.? In the weeks leading up to the diagnosis, at the beginning of July, Harper had been more tired than usual and wasn?t ?quite herself?. George said: ?It was tiny things that, at first, didn?t seem like much. ?We made several trips to the GP and A&E, each time being told it was tonsillitis or an ear infection. ?She was given antibiotics, but nothing helped her symptoms.? ?Every visit ended the same way ? reassurances that she?d be fine. ?But inside, we both knew something wasn?t right. ?It?s that instinct parents have; you know your child better than anyone, and we could feel something deeper was wrong.? With Harper appearing to have a lazy eye, a family friend suggested they book her in to the opticians to rule anything else out. George said, ?That decision changed everything. ?The Specsavers team in Safford were incredible. ?They were calm but serious, and when the optician stopped the test halfway through and explained that something didn?t look right, everything changed.? Within minutes, they were referred to a local hospital, where scans found a mass on Harper?s brain, with a large amount of fluid at the front. The tot was quickly transferred to Birmingham Children?s Hospital for specialist treatment, and within two days of the eye test, on 14 August, Harper was undergoing brain surgery. George said, ?Waiting through that surgery felt like a lifetime. ?You sit there as a parent, knowing there?s absolutely nothing you can do but hope.? Thankfully, the operation was a success, and the staff?s care was a ?lifeline? for the family. A week after the operation to remove the mass, the family were back in the hospital for the results. George said: ?We heard the words that will stay with us forever: the tumour was cancerous.? Harper was diagnosed with medulloblastoma, a form of brain cancer, which is treatable. That week, Harper began chemotherapy treatment with the oncology team. George said, ?Before all of this, Harper was full of energy and mischief, a proper little character. ?She loves her doggy BearBear, dancing around the living room, and running circles around us. ?She was the kind of child who made everyone around her smile. ?To see that light fade, and to see her hooked up to machines and unable to play, is breaking us. ?You spend your life protecting your child from harm, then suddenly you?re powerless, watching them go through something no one should have to face.? Since her diagnosis, Harper has been in ?relentless? treatment in a bid to destroy the cancerous cells in her body. George said, ?Through it all, Harper keeps smiling. ?She finds joy in the smallest moments ? a sticker from a nurse, bubbles from a play specialist, or just doing the best she can. ?Right now, Harper is stable and responding to treatment as well as anyone could hope. ?The team are positive, but they?ve also been honest ? cancer is unpredictable. ?Every scan brings a mix of hope and fear. ?You learn to live from one day to the next. ?We?ve had to rebuild our lives around chemotherapy schedules, hospital stays, blood counts, and side effects. ?It?s hard to describe what this does to a family. ?You lose routine, sleep, work, and sometimes even a sense of who you were before it all began. ?It?s barrage after barrage, never knowing when the next hit will come. ?But Harper?s spirit keeps pulling us through. ?Somehow, through all of it, Harper shines. ?She laughs, she plays, she loves. ?She?s taught us more about strength than we could ever teach her.? Her parents have also commended the care they have received from the hospital staff throughout the ordeal. George said, ?Amongst all the fear, the team at Birmingham Children?s Hospital gave us something we desperately needed: hope. ?Their compassion, honesty and care reminded us that while we couldn?t control the illness, we weren?t alone in the fight. ?We owe everything to the Oncology team on Ward 18 ? they?re extraordinary. ?Shivani, Eloise, Lukas, Jenny, and so many others have become like family. ?They?ve cried with us, laughed with us, and carried us. ?We?ll never forget the nurses on Ward 10 either, the team who looked after Harper after her surgery. ?They still pop in to check on her whenever they can ? that kind of care goes beyond duty; it?s love. ?Cancer might have taken away a part of her childhood, but it?s also shown us a side of humanity we didn?t know existed. ?People who love, care, and fight for children like ours every single day.? Family friends are currently fundraising to help support the Gibsons financially throughout Harper?s treatment, with a goal of ?15,000. ENDS EDITOR?S NOTE: Please run any major changes to the angle past Jam Press - the case study is slightly sensitive re the angle not being too negative. Video Usage Licence: (NON-EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained a non-exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.
Harper’s parents knew something was seriously wrong (Picture: Jam Press/@hope.4.harper)

In July this year, two-year-old Harper Gibson’s parents noticed that the toddler was a little more tired than usual and could tell that their little girl wasn’t ‘quite herself’.

‘It was tiny things that, at first, didn’t seem like much,’ her father, George, explains. ‘We made several trips to the GP and A&E, each time being told it was tonsillitis or an ear infection.’

Although Harper was prescribed antibiotics, they did nothing to help – and, as time went on, her worried mum and dad couldn’t shake the feeling something was wrong.

‘Every visit ended the same way – reassurances that she’d be fine,’ George adds. ‘But inside, we both knew something wasn’t right.’

Just a month later, the family received the devastating news that Harper actaully had medulloblastoma, the second most common brain tumour in children, which is potentially life-threatening and sees 52 diagnoses each year.

Her mother Laura, and dad George, from Staffordshire, only managed to the root of their daughter’s condition after a friend suggested a routine eye-test after noticing Harper had a lazy eye, so they took her to their local optician.

Story from Jam Press (Toddler Lazy Eye) Pictured: Harper Gibson in the hospital. ?We thought our toddler had a lazy eye ? two days later she was having emergency brain surgery? The parents of a little girl who they believed may have a lazy eye have spoken out to raise awareness after the tot was diagnosed with brain cancer. Harper Gibson had been exhibiting ?tiny? symptoms that something was amiss this summer, and a video of the two-year-old with what appeared to be a lazy eye prompted her parents to take her to see an optician. The eye test ?changed everything?, and Harper was immediately referred to the hospital for further testing. Just two days later, she was undergoing a seven-hour surgery to remove a 1.5-square-inch tumour from her brain. A biopsy confirmed her parents, George and Laura?s, worst fears, and Harper has been bravely facing gruelling treatment ever since. ?No parent is ever prepared for that moment,? George, from Staffordshire, told NeedToKnow of the day Harper was diagnosed. ?It?s a kind of pain that rips through you in silence. ?You want to scream, cry, do anything to take it away from them, but you can?t. ?That night, we both remember feeling like the world had stopped. ?Everything that used to matter suddenly meant nothing.? In the weeks leading up to the diagnosis, at the beginning of July, Harper had been more tired than usual and wasn?t ?quite herself?. George said: ?It was tiny things that, at first, didn?t seem like much. ?We made several trips to the GP and A&E, each time being told it was tonsillitis or an ear infection. ?She was given antibiotics, but nothing helped her symptoms.? ?Every visit ended the same way ? reassurances that she?d be fine. ?But inside, we both knew something wasn?t right. ?It?s that instinct parents have; you know your child better than anyone, and we could feel something deeper was wrong.? With Harper appearing to have a lazy eye, a family friend suggested they book her in to the opticians to rule anything else out. George said, ?That decision changed everything. ?The Specsavers team in Safford were incredible. ?They were calm but serious, and when the optician stopped the test halfway through and explained that something didn?t look right, everything changed.? Within minutes, they were referred to a local hospital, where scans found a mass on Harper?s brain, with a large amount of fluid at the front. The tot was quickly transferred to Birmingham Children?s Hospital for specialist treatment, and within two days of the eye test, on 14 August, Harper was undergoing brain surgery. George said, ?Waiting through that surgery felt like a lifetime. ?You sit there as a parent, knowing there?s absolutely nothing you can do but hope.? Thankfully, the operation was a success, and the staff?s care was a ?lifeline? for the family. A week after the operation to remove the mass, the family were back in the hospital for the results. George said: ?We heard the words that will stay with us forever: the tumour was cancerous.? Harper was diagnosed with medulloblastoma, a form of brain cancer, which is treatable. That week, Harper began chemotherapy treatment with the oncology team. George said, ?Before all of this, Harper was full of energy and mischief, a proper little character. ?She loves her doggy BearBear, dancing around the living room, and running circles around us. ?She was the kind of child who made everyone around her smile. ?To see that light fade, and to see her hooked up to machines and unable to play, is breaking us. ?You spend your life protecting your child from harm, then suddenly you?re powerless, watching them go through something no one should have to face.? Since her diagnosis, Harper has been in ?relentless? treatment in a bid to destroy the cancerous cells in her body. George said, ?Through it all, Harper keeps smiling. ?She finds joy in the smallest moments ? a sticker from a nurse, bubbles from a play specialist, or just doing the best she can. ?Right now, Harper is stable and responding to treatment as well as anyone could hope. ?The team are positive, but they?ve also been honest ? cancer is unpredictable. ?Every scan brings a mix of hope and fear. ?You learn to live from one day to the next. ?We?ve had to rebuild our lives around chemotherapy schedules, hospital stays, blood counts, and side effects. ?It?s hard to describe what this does to a family. ?You lose routine, sleep, work, and sometimes even a sense of who you were before it all began. ?It?s barrage after barrage, never knowing when the next hit will come. ?But Harper?s spirit keeps pulling us through. ?Somehow, through all of it, Harper shines. ?She laughs, she plays, she loves. ?She?s taught us more about strength than we could ever teach her.? Her parents have also commended the care they have received from the hospital staff throughout the ordeal. George said, ?Amongst all the fear, the team at Birmingham Children?s Hospital gave us something we desperately needed: hope. ?Their compassion, honesty and care reminded us that while we couldn?t control the illness, we weren?t alone in the fight. ?We owe everything to the Oncology team on Ward 18 ? they?re extraordinary. ?Shivani, Eloise, Lukas, Jenny, and so many others have become like family. ?They?ve cried with us, laughed with us, and carried us. ?We?ll never forget the nurses on Ward 10 either, the team who looked after Harper after her surgery. ?They still pop in to check on her whenever they can ? that kind of care goes beyond duty; it?s love. ?Cancer might have taken away a part of her childhood, but it?s also shown us a side of humanity we didn?t know existed. ?People who love, care, and fight for children like ours every single day.? Family friends are currently fundraising to help support the Gibsons financially throughout Harper?s treatment, with a goal of ?15,000. ENDS EDITOR?S NOTE: Please run any major changes to the angle past Jam Press - the case study is slightly sensitive re the angle not being too negative. Video Usage Licence: (NON-EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained a non-exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.
Harper has been positive throughout her whole cancer journey (Picture: Jam Press/@hope.4.harper)

‘It’s that instinct parents have; you know your child better than anyone, and we could feel something deeper was wrong,’ George says. ‘The Specsavers team in Safford were incredible.

‘They were calm but serious, and when the optician stopped the test halfway through and explained that something didn’t look right, everything changed.’

Within minutes, they were referred to a local hospital, where scans found a 1.5 square-inch mass on Harper’s brain, with a large amount of fluid at the front.

The litttle girl was quickly transferred to Birmingham Children’s Hospital for specialist treatment, and within two days of the eye test, on 14 August, she was undergoing brain surgery to remove the tumour and find out whether it was cancerous or benign.

‘Waiting through that surgery felt like a lifetime. You sit there as a parent, knowing there’s absolutely nothing you can do but hope,’ recalls George.

While the operation was a success, just a week later the family were back in the hospital nervously waiting for the results. ‘We heard the words that will stay with us forever: the tumour was cancerous,’ George recalls. ‘No parent is ever prepared for that moment.

‘It’s a kind of pain that rips through you in silence. You want to scream, cry, do anything to take it away from them, but you can’t.

‘That night, we both remember feeling like the world had stopped. Everything that used to matter suddenly meant nothing.’

Within days Harper, now three, had begun chemotherapy treatment with the oncology team, but her parents admit it has been hard to watch their little girl go through so much.

‘Before all of this, Harper was full of energy and mischief, a proper little character,’ says George. ‘She loves her doggy BearBear, dancing around the living room, and running circles around us.

‘She was the kind of child who made everyone around her smile. To see that light fade, and to see her hooked up to machines and unable to play, is breaking us.

‘You spend your life protecting your child from harm, then suddenly you’re powerless, watching them go through something no one should have to face.’

Medulloblastoma

Medulloblastoma is the second most common brain tumour in children. It’s the most common malignant (high grade) children’s brain tumour.

It develops at the back of the brain and is more likely to grow quickly, as well as spread to other areas of the brain and spinal chord.

Your child might have symptoms for a few weeks or months before they are diagnosed with medulloblastoma. Many symptoms are general and non specific. Some are similar to less serious childhood illnesses. Symptoms might include:

  • headaches in the morning
  • feeling or being sick – being sick often makes the headaches feel better
  • double vision
  • finding it hard to sit or stand unsupported – your child might often fall backwards
  • being more fractious or irritable – it might be taking longer than usual to get your young child to settle
  • loss of appetite
  • behaviour changes – they might be interacting with you or their siblings less

During a young infant’s routine development check up, symptoms sometimes picked up are:

  • an increasing head size (head circumference)
  • a swollen soft spot on top of the skull (fontanelle)

Source: Cancer Research UK

Harper is still undergoing ‘relentless’ treatment in an attempt to destroy the cancerous cells in her body, but despite this her parents say she ‘keeps smiling’.

‘She finds joy in the smallest moments – a sticker from a nurse, bubbles from a play specialist, or just doing the best she can,’ George adds.

‘Right now, Harper is stable and responding to treatment as well as anyone could hope. The team are positive, but they’ve also been honest – cancer is unpredictable.’

The family add that they are living from one day to the next, after having to ‘rebuild their lives around chemotherapy schedules, hospital stays, blood counts, and side effects’.

‘You lose routine, sleep, work, and sometimes even a sense of who you were before it all began,’ George explains. ‘It’s barrage after barrage, never knowing when the next hit will come.

‘But Harper’s spirit keeps pulling us through. Somehow, through all of it, Harper shines.

‘She’s taught us more about strength than we could ever teach her.’

The parents also thank the ‘extraordinary’ staff for giving them ‘hope’, saying: ‘They’ve cried with us, laughed with us, and carried us.

‘They still pop in to check on her whenever they can – that kind of care goes beyond duty; it’s love.’

It’s this community spirit that has been the silver lining for the family.

‘Cancer might have taken away a part of her childhood, but it’s also shown us a side of humanity we didn’t know existed,’

‘People who love, care, and fight for children like ours every single day.’

Family friends are currently fundraising to help support the Gibsons financially throughout Harper’s treatment, with a goal of £15,000.

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Bottles of Aldi wine with the Drink Up logo
Aldi’s new wine range has some pretty impressive options (Picture: Getty Images/fStop)

Aldi has just casually launched its most premium wine range yet, just in time for Christmas.

And look, I appreciate the words ‘Aldi’ and ‘super premium’ don’t usually get uttered in the same sentence, but in the retailer’s own words, ‘shoppers can now sip like sommeliers without breaking the bank’.

They definitely had my attention at the last part of that sentence…

The new range includes high-end classics like Chablis Premier Cru, Sancerre and Châteauneuf-du-Pape, alongside a Rioja Gran Reserva and a Napa Cabernet Sauvignon and somehow prices start from just £6.29.

These are the kinds of wines you’d usually source from a wine merchant as they rely on factors like vintage, producer and site-specific vineyards. 

Aldi's most premium wine range to date, picture shows bottles of wine in the range, some nibbles and a glass
It’s the retailer’s most premium wine range ever (Picture: Aldi)

What is ‘premium’ wine?

To put ‘premium’ wines into perspective, they are typically produced in smaller quantities, by independent producers, from grapes grown in famously coveted regions around the world.

They’re usually made as vintage wines, meaning the grapes have to have been grown in the year stated on the bottle (or usually 85% do), from the better vineyard plots and they showcase a high level of provenance and grape varietal specificity.

Many are organic or biodynamic, shunning the use of chemicals in favour of sustainable methods. All of these factors push up the price.

This is the opposite to Aldi’s successful business model of working with top tier cooperatives across the world to procure their value wines. They tend to purchase in such high volumes that it means they can negotiate the best possible prices. Hence, my jaw is constantly on the floor when I attend their tastings.

What’s in Aldi’s new wine range?

There are 16 different wines in the new premium range, across red, white and rosé and they span a good number of the globe’s finer wine-producing countries – we’re talking Italy, Spain, France, United States and South Africa.

The selection includes the kind of appellations you’d find on Michelin Star wine lists or tucked away in private cellars of the annoyingly wealthy.

Prices for these bottles range from £6.29 to £21.99 at Aldi, which is remarkably cheaper than you’d find them in fancy restaurants.

Now, because I associate Aldi with the budget side of the wine world, I was curious to dip into this range and see what I thought. And full disclosure, I was sceptical going into it.

But after tasting the entire range, I’ve hand-selected five wines from a decent spread of price points and interest levels that I think should be on your shopping list on the run-up to Christmas.

Here’s the best of the bunch…

Specially Selected Stellenbosch Chardonnay, South Africa, (£6.29, 75cl)

Specially Selected Stellenbosch Chardonnay, South Africa
This is the top buy from the range (Picture: Aldi)

Located east of Cape Town, Stellenbosch is looked at as one of South Africa’s finest winemaking regions. It’s sun kissed, so it tends to produce wines with ripe, vibrant aromas and flavours, with phenomenal freshness. This one was the major standout of the range for me, with rich, mineral and voluptuous flavours of nectarine, peach and mango with a balancing spritz of lime on the finish. It actually impressed me more than a bottle I recently tried in a fancy restaurant, which cost £125.

Specially Selected Chablis Premier Cru, France,(£21.99, 75cl)

Specially Selected Chablis Premier Cru, France
Much cheaper than the £1,175 version at Claridge’s (Picture: Aldi)

A Chablis Premier Cru is currently on the list at Claridge’s Hotel for £1,175. That’s extreme, but Premier Cru is a massive step up in quality to regular Chablis. The vineyard sites (climats) with the best soil and climate are reserved for Premier Cru status. Aldi’s is a whisper of Claridge’s price tag, yet has elegance, minerality and Chablis’s typical tension, with flavours of tangerine, yellow plum and Golden Delicious apple crumble.

Specially Selected Cigales Rosé, Spain (£8.99, 75cl)

Specially Selected Cigales Ros?, Spain
This drink matches phenomentally well with all food (Picture: Aldi)

Just call me the Graped Crusader, as I’m the biggest advocate for rosé being consumed in all seasons, as it’s by far the most versatile style of wine you’ll find. This is from northeastern Spain, with bright red fruit and precise zing-factor, making it a true gastro-rosé. It’s a term I’ve literally just coined, as it matches phenomenally well with all things foodie. Try this with your turkey and trimmings in a few weeks and thank me later.

Specially Selected Moldovan Rară Neagră (£7.99, 75cl)

Specially Selected Moldovan Rar??Neagr?
This wine is fruit-tastic (Picture: Aldi)

This is one of the real stars of the show, but strap yourself in for something different. First of all, this wine is from Moldova, made from a rare Transylvanian grape called Rară Neagră (rara-nee-egg-ra). Moldova has an established winemaking history stretching back 3,000 years, and you can tell. This is fruit-tastic, with lashings of crunchy plum and blackberry flavours, and a more serious line of cedar-like oak running through it.

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If you need to upgrate your electricals at home, now’s your chance as Hughes Electricals SLASH prices on must-have items for Black Friday. (Picture: Metro/Hughes Electrical/Getty. Photographer: Alex Harban)

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Cyber Monday is here, and almost over for another year and, in our humble opinion, Hughes Electrical has just launched one of the most tempting sales!

So, if your home tech is starting to show its age – the TV takes a century to turn on or the fridge freezer keeps switching itself off – now’s the perfect time to upgrade

With the sale running until December 2 2025, shoppers have plenty of time to browse and buy without the stress of a one-day-only frenzy and with extra discount codes to add on top of sale prices, this sale is really worth your while. 

Shop one of the selected models over £249 and you can treat yourself to another £15 off with the code ‘BF15’ at checkout, while the code ‘BF30’ takes £30 off when you spend £499 and code ‘BF50’ gives shoppers £50 off purchases over £799. 

Although these codes can’t be used alongside other promotions, and they don’t apply to Apple or IT products, they’re still a welcome bonus!

So, take a moment, browse some of our top sale picks below, and give your home a much-needed upgrade. Trust us, your future self will thank you.

Large TV screen with colourful graphics

Panasonic TV-50W80AEY 50" LED 4K Smart TV – 60Hz Refresh Rate

The Panasonic TV-50W80AEY 50" LED 4K Smart TV delivers lifelike picture quality with 4K Ultra HD, HDR10+, Dolby Vision, and Next-Gen Filmmaker Mode, ensuring every scene is sharp, vivid, and true to the creator’s intent. Enjoy seamless streaming via Freely and Fire TV, immersive Dolby Atmos sound, smooth gaming with Auto Low Latency Mode and Variable Refresh Rate, and hands-free control with Alexa integration.

Buy Now for FOR £299 (WAS £499) – SAVE £200

White tumble dryer

Miele TWH780WP T1 9kg Heat Pump Tumble Dryer – White

Experience fast, energy-efficient drying with EcoDry technology, PerfectDry, and DryCare 40 in the Miele TWH780WP T1 9kg Heat Pump Tumble Dryer – White, designed to care for every fabric. Enjoy added convenience with FragranceDos, AddLoad, integrated condensed water drainage, and smart connectivity via Miele@home for effortless control.

Buy Now for £999 (was £1,449) – save £450

White dishwasher

Bosch SMV6ZCX10G Series 6 Built-In Dishwasher – White

The Bosch SMV6ZCX10G Series 6 Built-In Dishwasher delivers reliable cleaning and even dish drying with PerfectDry and Zeolith technology. It features AquaStop leak protection, the flexible VarioDrawer, Remote Diagnostics, and smart programme recommendations via Home Connect for efficient, hassle-free operation.

Buy Now

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Hotpoint NT M11 92SSK UK CreaseCare 9kg Heat Pump Tumble Dryer – Silver

The Hotpoint NT M11 92SSK UK 9kg Heat Pump Tumble Dryer offers efficient drying with Crease Care and Anti Allergy features to keep clothes in good condition. Its heat pump system and easy-to-clean filter make it practical and low-maintenance.

Buy Now for £399 (was £499) – save £100

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TCL RP320FBE0UK American Fridge Freezer With Total No Frost

Experience reliable cooling with the TCL RP320FBE0UK American Fridge Freezer, featuring Total No Frost technology and even cold distribution to keep food fresher for longer. Its frost-free design, multi-level airflow, and Power Freeze function make food preservation simple and hassle-free.

Buy Now for £469 (was £629) – save £160

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LG B56LA 65" 4K HDR Smart webOS TV with AI Concierge – OLED65B56LA

The LG B56LA 65" 4K HDR Smart webOS TV with AI Concierge – OLED65B56LA features 4K Ultra HD resolution with the a8 AI Processor 4K Gen2 for AI-enhanced picture and sound, Variable Refresh Rate, and FreeSync for smooth gaming and video playback. With webOS 25, AI Concierge, Game Optimiser, and Auto Low Latency Mode, it offers intuitive smart TV controls, personalized content recommendations, and seamless integration with connected devices.

Buy Now for £1,299 (was £2,499) – save £1,200

Just remember, you’ve only got until December 2 to snag these tech bargains.

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Trust us, you won’t want to miss this incredible deal. (Picture: Metro/Myprotein/Getty)

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Keeping fit is great for our mind, body and soul, but between protein powders, gym memberships and sculpting activewear, our bank balance can end up feeling the burn more than we do. 

Thankfully, Black Friday has arrived with a whole host of jammy deals, and MyProtein is offering up to 80% off some of its biggest best-sellers.

One of the standout steals has got to be the MP Women’s Curve Leggings, down to just £1.99. Yes, cheaper than a cup of coffee.

Black fitness leggings with brand printed on waistband

MP Women’s Curve Leggings

Your go-to leggings just got an upgrade. The Curve Leggings are back with all the features you love: sweat-wicking, body-sculpting, high-waisted, and designed for maximum coverage. Perfect for powering through workouts or lounging in style.

Buy Now for £1.99 (was £38) – save £36.01

Usually priced at £38, these leggings come in sizes XXS to XXL and a range of colours to suit every style. They’re sweat-proof, moisture-wicking, and designed with a seamless finish that flatters your figure from every angle. Plus, the thick waistband gives you that sculpted and held-in feeling we all love.

The reviews speak for themselves, with shoppers hailing them the best leggings they’ve ever worn.

‘I have now found my favourite black leggings!!’ Cydney said in her review. ‘Sooo comfy & definitely squat proof! And the waistband is very supportive! Love my new leggings! Don’t think twice! These are a must buy!! 

‘Literally the BEST leggings I’ve ever bought,’ Rhonda added. ‘Shapes you sooo nicely and holds you in, at the places you may not be soo keen on. 10/10 would recommend.’ 

‘Definitely a staple in every gym gals wardrobe,’ Jacqueline added, while Amelia insisted: ‘I love these leggings, I have 2 pairs now. They are very supportive, and comfortable.’

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How gorgeous is this! (Picture: Metro/Myprotein)

The MP Women’s Curve Vest is down from £30 to just £1.99. The racer-back makes it easy to move around, while the sweat-wicking fabric can give you cool even during the sweatiest workouts.

‘Absolutely love my vest top it is well comfortable and fits perfectly that I brought the sports bra and leggings as well,’ Jenty said, while Katie added: ‘I bought it in a variety of colours as I liked it so much!’

Bottle of Omega-3 supplements
Essential for a reason… (Picture: Metro/Myprotein)

Another star product in the Black Friday sale is the Essential Omega-3 supplements. These are now just £5.99, and shoppers insist the essential fatty acid gives you better focus, energy, and even improves your memory.

Suhail insisted their memory had never been better since taking the supplements, gushing: ‘This product is amazing! Not only does it work effectively but it’s also such a bargain. This product really helped me at the gym, it helped with my mental health and my memory has never been better! I would recommend anyone that hits the gym daily and needs help with bad memory coz this is definitely worth it.’

Thilana said she felt more energetic and had better focus since incorporating the supplements into her diet, adding: ‘Whether you’re looking to boost your heart health, improve your cognitive function, or just support your overall wellness, this product is definitely worth trying. Highly recommend!’

Well, looks like we’re ready to splurge again!

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Ready, set, SLAY with New Look. (Picture: Metro/New Look/Getty)

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If you haven’t browsed New Look for a while, now’s the time. The high street fave has been on a roll lately with loads of pieces that look just as good as the pricier stuff.

Think plush faux-fur coats, great quality basics that fit the whole quiet luxury trend, and party dresses that could easily pass for designer. 

And now, with Black Friday here, the bargains are seriously stacking up. 

New Look already has up to 50% off everything on site, but now lucky shoppers can take an extra 10% off with cheeky discount code ‘CYBERYAY’ at checkout. Yes – that’ll give you an extra 10% off the sale price! 

Got your eye on something sparkly for Christmas? This discount code will expire at midnight December 2 so don’t wait to shop!

But, if you’re short on time and don’t want to trawl the site for all the best key pieces, you’ve come to the right place. The shopping experts at Metro have listed everything that’s worth adding to basket below – happy saving!

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Gini London Pale Pink Tiered Faux Fur Coat

The Gini London Pale Pink Tiered Faux Fur Coat from New Look features a soft faux fur finish in a relaxed, midi-length fit. It comes with a hood, long cosy sleeves, and practical side slip pockets. The tiered design adds subtle detail and is guaranteed to keep you warm all winter.

BUY NOW FOR £91 (WAS £130) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

Model wears sparkly purple dress with glitter

Purple Metallic Jacquard Tiered Maxi Dress

This Purple Metallic Jacquard Tiered Maxi Dress is the ultimate party-ready style this festive season. Made from shimmering metallic jacquard fabric, the flowy fit and three-tiered circle skirt move beautifully with every step. Perfect for Christmas parties, festive dinners, or fancy New Year’s Eve celebrations.

BUY NOW FOR £68.39 (WAS £75.99) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

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Black Embellished Trim Playsuit

The Black Embellished Trim Playsuit is a chic, versatile piece perfect for festive gatherings. With a relaxed fit to keep you comfortable, this black playsuit is finished with shiny embellished trims that add a subtle sparkle. Wear it with tights and boots in the cold weather!

BUY NOW FOR £15.74 (WAS £20.99) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

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Red Floral Print High Neck Blouse

This high-neck Red Floral Print High Neck Blouse features a ruffled yoke for a retro 70s touch. Made from red satin with a floral print, it drapes elegantly. It’s perfect for festive lunches, Christmas parties, or work-to-evening styling.

BUY NOW FOR £15.59 (WAS £25.99) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

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Black Sequinned Scooped Back Long Sleeve Top

Dazzle the night away with this slim-fit Black Sequinned Scooped Back Long Sleeve Top. The scooped low-cut back is finished with satin ties that knot into a bow, making it perfect for parties and festive evenings.

BUY NOW FOR £17.99 (WAS £29.99) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

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Curves Black Checked Midi Skirt

Add a preppy look to your wardrobe with the Curves Black Checked Midi Skirt. Featuring a classic checked print and an elasticated waistband, this skirt is comfortable for all-day wear and works with knitwear, blouses, or casual tops.

BUY NOW FOR £17.99 (WAS £29.99) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

Female wears grey wrap around sweater with blue jeans and grey tshirt peeping through

Grey Cable Knit Wrap Jumper

Stay cosy this season with the Grey Cable Knit Wrap Jumper. Made from soft cable knit, it features ribbed trims and a side tie for a snug, adjustable fit that flatters your waist. Pair with straight leg denim and heeled ankle boots.

BUY NOW FOR £17.99 (WAS £29.99) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

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Black Velvet Square Neck Mini Dress

Make a statement with the Black Velvet Square Neck Mini Dress. Crafted from soft velvet fabric, this chic mini features a square neckline and long balloon sleeves for a flattering, elegant look. The gathered skirt adds movement and a touch of drama, making it perfect for evenings out, festive parties, or special occasions. Pair with heels or boots to complete the outfit.

BUY NOW FOR £17.99 (WAS £29.99) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

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Pink Vanilla Brown Faux Fur Leather Jacket

Stay cosy with the Pink Vanilla Brown Faux Fur Leather Jacket. This relaxed-fit jacket features brown faux fur with leather-look trim, a collared neckline, buttoned pockets, and press-stud fastening. Perfect for chilly days or casual outfits.

BUY NOW FOR £37.50 (WAS £50) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

Black tulle skirt with sequin detailing

Apricot Black Tulle Faux Pearl Midi Skirt

Add a touch of sparkle with the Apricot Black Tulle Faux Pearl Midi Skirt. This A-line midi skirt features tulle fabric and faux pearl detailing around the hem, perfect for rocking a Carrie Bradshaw-style outfit at parties, special occasions, or festive events.

BUY NOW FOR £28.50 (WAS £30) – USE ‘CYBERYAY’ FOR EXTRA 10% OFF

Remember to use the discount code ‘CYBERYAY’ for an extra 10% off the sale price at check out!

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