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Boux Avenue’s must-have lingerie set is under £25 – and supports cancer charity, The Eve Appeal
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If you’re after some pretty new underwear to brighten up your top drawer this spring, Boux Avenue is giving you the perfect excuse to treat yourself and give back. Because what’s better than feel-good lingerie? Lingerie that does good too.
From today until Sunday June 8, Boux Avenue is donating 10% of sales from its super cute Ribbed Seamless Ditsy Floral Bralette and matching Thong & Brief in Pink Mix to The Eve Appeal – the UK’s leading gynecological cancer charity.
Boux Avenue Ribbed Seamless Ditsy Floral Bralette
Soft, stretchy, and pretty, this seamless bralette features a ditsy floral print, scoop neckline, and removable padding. Non-wired for comfort and made with 25% recycled fibres, it has a matching thong or briefs to complete the set.
Not only is this floral set perfect for spring, it’s also part of The Eve Appeal’s brilliant #GetLippy campaign, which runs throughout May to raise awareness of the five gynecological cancers and help break the stigma around gynae health.
Yes, it’s time to get comfy talking about the stuff we’ve been told to whisper about. From recognising the signs and symptoms to simply feeling confident enough to say the word ‘vulva’ out loud, the campaign is all about education, empowerment, and starting life-saving conversations.
Boux Avenue isn’t just donating proceeds, they’re using their platform to support the cause and educate their community too. Because talking openly about gynae health shouldn’t be awkward, and the more we know, the more lives we can save.
To mark the campaign, Boux has also teamed up with two incredible women who have lived with gynecological cancer, sharing their powerful stories on Boux’s site and social channels throughout May. It’s heartfelt, it’s honest, and a reminder of just how important these conversations are.
So go ahead, treat yourself to something beautiful. Because when you shop this set, you’re not just updating your lingerie drawer, you’re helping support real change.
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'I'm worried about telling my ex my new partner is moving in with his daughter'
Coleen Nolan advises a mother of two who is making plans to live with her new boyfriend and his child, but thinks her ex and his mother will have a lot to say about it
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These are the 9 best (and most comfortable!) ballet flats to wear this summer
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This summer, the only shoes you’ll want to slip into are ballet flats. Easy on the feet and effortlessly chic, they’re having a major fashion moment – and we’re not mad about it.
Forget what you remember from the early 2000s. Today’s ballet flats are cooler, comfier, and way more versatile.
Whether you’re headed to the office, grabbing brunch, or packing for a weekend away by the coast, they’re the perfect finishing accessory that keeps your look polished without trying too hard.
Designers are fully on board too. From high-end labels like Miu Miu and The Row to high street favourites like Arket, COS, and Mango, everyone’s offering their take.
The Row’s Elastic Leather Ballet Flats are stylish but will set you back £800. We’ve listed far more affordable options below.
Pair classic black leather pumps with wide-leg trousers for quiet luxury vibes, or opt for mesh, metallics or satin to add a stylish twist to your summer dresses.
The best part is you don’t have to choose between comfort and style. With ballet flats, you get both.
So, whether you’re a minimalist, a maximalist, or somewhere in between, consider this your sign: ballet flats are back, and they’re here to stay.
Scroll down to see our pick of the best to buy now…
M&S Woven Ballet Pumps
These M&S woven ballet pumps are a fresh, summery twist to a classic favourite. Designed with a breathable texture, a delicate bow detail, and cushioned insoles for all-day comfort, they’re perfect for effortless everyday style. Easy to slip on and endlessly versatile.
Free People Italian Summer Mary Janes
Sun-drenched days call for these effortlessly chic Mary Janes. Made with soft leather and a minimalist strap design, they give your outfits a laid-back feel. They’re lightweight, breathable, and perfect for pairing with everything from linen trousers to floaty dresses.
H&M Mesh Mary Jane Ballet Pumps
Chic and lightweight, these mesh Mary Jane pumps are timeless design in a bold, on-trend leopard-print pattern. The sheer texture and elastic strap offer both style and comfort, making them perfect for effortless day-to-night dressing.
Arket Lace Up Ballerinas
Reinventing the classic ballerina, these lace-up shoes from Arket bring a bold, fashion-forward edge to your outfit. Made from soft leather with a sleek, minimal silhouette, the adjustable lacing is so high fashion. Perfect for those who want comfort without compromising on style.
Public Desire Gianna Pink Floral Ballet Flats
Bring some personality to your wardrobe with the Gianna Pink Floral Ballet Flats from Public Desire at New Look. The pretty floral print and minimalist silhouette make these flats the perfect accessory for a summer outfit. With a comfortable fit and breathable fabric, they’ll be your go-to shoe all summer.
Clarks Daiss30 Shine Mary Jane
The Daiss30 Shine Mary Janes from Clarks feature adjustable strap and a cushioned insole for extra comfort and the subtle metallic sheen brings a sophisticated touch to both casual and dressier outfits. We love.
Zara Crochet Bow Ballerinas
With a delicate crochet upper and a minimalist bow, Zara’s Crochet Bow Ballerinas are our new favourite summer shoes. Designed for comfort, soft, lightweight pair them with a pair of cropped jeans or a floral midi dress.
Chloé Marcie Embellished Leather Ballet Flats
Expensive? Yes. Timelessly chic? Also, yes. The Chloé Marcie embellished leather ballet flats are pricey but they’re made from gorgeously supple leather and will last for summers to come. The T-bar straps mean your feet stay in place and we just love the gold buckle detail.
Charles & Keith Snake-Print Crossover-Strap Mary Janes
These Mary Janes from Charles & Keith feature sleek crossover straps and a snake-print finish for a contemporary, textured look. The structured silhouette adds a modern edge, making them an easy choice for both sophisticated tailoring and laid-back jeans.
Forget the heels, these ballet flats are the it-girl shoes for spring/summer 2025.
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‘Hi, Mum’, said a cheery voice as I answered my phone in the middle of a bookstore. I froze. Because although I am a mum, it wasn’t either of my children on the other end of the phone. It was my own mother.
At that moment, with my phone in my hand, I didn’t know how to react. ‘Go along with it’ is often the advice given when dealing with people who have dementia. But should I remind my mum that her own mother died 40 years ago and that I am, in fact, her daughter?
My mum, Diane, was one of the first women to get a scholarship to Cambridge University in 1960s. She went on to have a 30-year career as a producer and director for the BBC. Travelling the world to war-torn countries, reporting news and current affairs, she was more comfortable in combats than heels.
The first sign of a problem came in 2018, with increasing forgetfulness. It had been subtle at first: asking the same question twice over dinner.
Then came heightened anxiety over the smallest things. The woman who once got to an airport to fly across the world with an hour’s notice would call me every few hours to rehash our lunch plans at the café where we had met 100 times. This annoyed me and I asked myself, ‘Why is she being so ridiculously needy?’
It has always been just Mum and me. My grandmother died when my mum was pregnant – and my dad left at the same time.
Endless googling of ‘early dementia symptoms’ led to the conclusion that a visit to the GP was in order. The first step was a blood test to rule out any deficiencies – thyroid, vitamin B12, anaemia – that can change someone’s mental state.
Next was a referral to the memory clinic where Mum had comprehensive neuropsychological testing. And finally, a brain scan.
Then, in 2018, came the devastating diagnosis: at the age of 72, Mum had Alzheimer’s, the most common type of dementia. We attended the appointment together. I recall her being quiet for a while and then saying, ‘Oh well, at least we can start rewatching our Jonathan Creek boxset – I clearly won’t remember any of the endings!’
I felt a range of emotions: relief that there was something wrong, anger that this was happening to us, and scared for what the future held. Would Mum ever meet grandchildren and be at my wedding? How long until she’d no longer know who I was?
In the first couple of years, the progression was slow. Then Covid hit. I guess we’ll never know if the isolation directly affected Mum’s health, but enough studies have been done to show that being isolated and unoccupied can lead to faster progression.
Visiting the flat of my once house-proud mum after not being able to do so for a few months during lockdown was shocking. Piles of rubbish, a fridge full of rotting food, cat poo on the carpet. My guilt was overwhelming: the woman who had raised me single-handedly really needed me – and I had let her down.
We relocated Mum to around the corner from our home and I fell into a carer role. I took over all life admin: shopping, cleaning, bills. Luckily I’d applied for power of attorney while Mum was still of sound mind. That’s something I highly recommend doing when caring for a loved one because the process is more complicated further down the line. It’s part of the advice given by Alzheimer’s Society, too.
Time-confusion is a common symptom of dementia but tools are available to help. Mum’s flat featured two dementia clocks that simplify time by writing it out – ‘three in the morning’ etc. A toddler clock at the front door stated ‘red means night, green means day’ and sensors on doors alerted my phone whenever they opened and closed.
I urge anyone in a similar position to reach out for help. From gadgets to coping techniques, Alzheimer’s Society has so much advice. The earlier the diagnosis, the better it is for all concerned.
It hasn’t been all doom and gloom, though. As Mum regresses into a childlike state, the simplest of things bring her happiness: the blossom on a tree, a good cup of tea, dancing to a busker in the street with my toddler. Pure joy was on her face every time she clocked my baby bump during my second pregnancy. ‘You’re pregnant!’ she’d exclaim.
Now living in a care home near me, she’s baking, painting and growing vegetables at an allotment.
I get to hold Mum’s hand and watch the faces of my children light up when they see her. We’re still making memories I’ll treasure for ever.
The six signs that can indicate dementia
About a million people in the UK have dementia and the figure is projected to rise to 1.4million by 2040. Each person experiences dementia in a different way, especially during the early stages.
Here are six red-flag signs used by Alzheimer’s Society in its online symptoms checklist – endorsed by the Royal College of GPs – to help people describe their symptoms to their health professional.
Changes in mood or personality
Nobody is expected to feel positive all the time but if someone starts to become easily irritable, lose interest in things or have extreme highs and lows, this may be a sign of dementia.
Asking the same question over and over again could also be a sign. If you spot these signs in yourself or a loved one, seek support from a GP or a healthcare professional as soon as you can.
Memory loss
For someone with dementia, problems with memory and thinking become worse more quickly than they would normally do with age. The decline is noticeable over a period of months rather than years.
For a doctor to diagnose someone with dementia, their symptoms must have become more frequent and have a significant affect on daily life.
Difficulty organising thoughts or staying focused
Familiar tasks they’ve done all their lives may start to get more difficult. Someone may also lose the ability to perform tasks in the proper order, such as trying to cook pasta before putting water in the pan.
Equally, if a person finds they’re making lots of poor decisions – because they can’t process information in the way they used to or their personality seems to have changed over a few months – it could be a sign they need to see their GP.
Asking the same question over and over again could also be a sign.
Other signs include forgetting the names of common objects and words, and quickly losing the thread of what someone is saying.
Problems using words or communicating
As people get older, it’s common to have trouble finding the correct word occasionally. Most of the time, this is a normal sign of ageing.
However, if someone consistently struggles to communicate because they can’t remember commonly used words, or they’re putting words together in a way that doesn’t make sense, this may be a sign that something is wrong.
Problems with vision
It’s normal for a person’s eyesight not to be as sharp as it was when younger.
However, if they’re still having issues reading text, even with glasses on, it might be worth telling their GP.
Some people with dementia have difficulty judging distances or seeing edges, leading to trips or falls. Dementia sometimes causes hallucinations.
Confusion about where you are or what time it is
If someone finds themselves getting lost in a familiar place or being unable to find their way home, this can be a red flag.
Some people experience ‘time shifts’ – eg they may think they’re living in a previous home.
If you’re worried about yourself or someone close to you, then check your symptoms today using Alzheimer’s Society’s symptom checklist.
Visit alzheimers.org.uk/checklist or call their Dementia Support Line on 0333 150 3456
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Damson Madder’s new summer-ready capsule collection is here — but it won’t be for long
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Famous for their ‘more is more’ approach to fashion, Damson Madder has been making waves ever since they burst onto the fashion scene back in 2020.
Best known for their bold yet ultra-feminine prints, and statement features like frill collars, oversized bows, and ruffles, every single item they make exudes joy and confidence.
But unlike many of today’s most popular sites and stores, the London-based brand prides itself on a more slow and sustainable approach to fashion — meaning every collection is limited in both size and stock quantity. So, it’s safe to say that we were all ears as soon as we heard the news that the latest collection had dropped.
A carefully curated collection of summer-ready pieces, ‘The Gaze’ offers a modern take on femininity, with its mix of structured yet flowy silhouettes, statement prints, and palette that plays with bold primary colours.
The hero print of the collection has to be the on-trend red and white micro polka dot — but as we’d expect, stripes and checks are also heavily featured. And don’t worry, accessory lovers — they’ve definitely delivered in the scrunchie department.
Ready to shop? From chic shirred shirts, to romantic strappy dresses and camis, here are a few of the collection’s stand-out pieces:
Raphi Cami in Off White And Red Spot
From its statement shirred bodice and square neckline, to the flattering peplum hem and vintage ruffle detailing, this cami is a slightly new silhouette for Damson Madder — but it fits in seamlessly. For a cute and cohesive fit, pair it with the matching Layla Skirt, which is the perfect drop-waist midi.
Hazel Shirt in Blue/Choc Stripe
We’re big fans of this blue and chocolate brown striped take on the fan-favourite white Hazel Shirt. With its shirred detailing, button down placket, and peplum hem, it’s the perfect blend of form-fitting and feminine.
Mallory Midi Dress in Cloudy Check
Another brand new silhouette for SS25, this midi oozes feminine charm with its smocked bodice, low back, and flowy drop-waist skirt. Best of all, you can even purchase a frilly Garter Scrunchie in the same pretty checked print.
Angelina Midi Dress in Red
Another new silhouette, the lace-up fitted bodice and voluminous flowing skirt of this strappy midi dress make the perfect romantic pair. Red is well and truly having its moment — but if you’d like a slightly more unique print, it also comes in Blue/Choc Stripe.
Leilani Blouse in Garden Tulle Stripe
With its A-line silhouette, flowy three-quarter sleeves, and lightly ruffled square neckline, there’s something effortlessly feminine about this vintage-inspired blouse. Pair it with the matching Layla Godet Midi Skirt — or keep it casual with a pair of jeans instead.
Garter Bun Wrap in Blue/Choc Stripe
A hair accessory that does a little something extra, this oversized scrunchie comes with a bun wrap that looks lovely tied in a bow around a ponytail or bun — or if you’re feeling fancy, you can even weave it through a plait.
Adeline Shell Mini Dress in Laser Check
A real retro silhouette, this gorgeous mini dress makes a real statement with its pretty puff sleeves, functional oversized buttons, and laser check details. For a cute and preppy fit, pair it with white socks and a trusty pair of black loafers.
Cressida Cami in Blue Paisley
We love a flowy summer cami — and this one has a lovely vintage feel thanks to its pretty paisley pattern. Designed with comfort in mind, it’s got adjustable tie detailing at the sides, and a shirred back bodice for additional stretch.
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'I'm 21 and my partner is 44, people can't believe how old my step-kids are'
A 21-year-old woman admitted that she gets accused of being a ‘gold digger’ because of the 23-year age gap relationship she has with her boyfriend – but she is encouraging people not to judge
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I’m a prostate cancer specialist — don’t ignore these 7 warning signs
Former US President Joe Biden has been diagnosed with an ‘aggressive’ form of prostate cancer after experiencing ‘urinary symptoms’.
Though the disease appears to have spread to his bones, a statement from the 82-year-old’s personal office described the cancer as ‘hormone-sensitive, which allows for effective management.’
Like with all cancers, the earlier you notice symptoms of prostate cancer, the more chance there is that you can access effective treatment.
With this in mind, a prostate cancer specialist has shared some of the little-known warning signs of the condition he thinks everyone should know about.
What is prostate cancer?
Prostate cancer is the most common type of cancer amongst men in the UK and mainly affects those over the age of 50, although you can get it at any age.
According to Cancer Research, it’s cancer of the prostate gland. The gland is a part of the male reproductive system and is located at the base of the bladder. It’s about the size of a walnut but gets bigger as men get older.
Cancer occurs when abnormal cells start to divide and grow in an uncontrolled way. The cells can grow into surrounding tissues or organs, and may spread to other areas of the body.
What are the symptoms of prostate cancer?
In many cases, prostate cancer doesn’t cause any symptoms at all. The best way of detecting prostate cancer early is with a PSA blood test, this can be done even in the absence of symptoms.
However, there are a number of warning signs you can should keep an eye out for, most of which are to do with urination. Problems with urinating can often be one of the first signs that something is wrong, especially if the cancer is pressing on or growing near the urethra.
Professor Hashim Ahmed, a Consultant Urological Surgeon at Cromwell Hospital, told Metro: ‘It’s really important that men speak to their GP as soon as possible, if they notice any changes to their urine.’
He went on to share seven changes to be wary of, including needing to pee more frequently, as well as straining to pee and difficulty when starting to urinate.
1. Needing to pee more frequently, often during the night
You’ll know what’s normal to you but, if you start needing to urinate more often during the day, get a sudden urge to go or needing to get up during the night it can be a sign that your prostate has enlarged or of something else that is wrong such as a UTI.
2. Straining or difficulty starting urinating
As well as needing to urinate more often, men tend to find that when they get to the toilet, they have problems starting to urinate. This may be because the enlarged prostate or tumour is blocking the urine flowing through to the urethra.
3. A weak flow of urine
A weak flow of urine can occur if the cancer is pressing on the urethra, meaning not all the urine in the bladder is able to pass. It may also mean that your bladder doesn’t feel empty and you need to go more frequently.
4. Difficulty to stop when peeing or dribbling urine
Similarly to finding it difficult to start urinating, men might also find it difficult to stop urinating once they’ve started, or may find they dribble urine after they’ve finished peeing.
5. Feeling like you’re not able to fully empty your bladder
As with other symptoms, this may be caused because the tumour or enlarged prostate is blocking the urine flowing through the urethra.
6. Blood in urine
Blood in the urine can be a key sign that something is wrong. Even if it is only a small amount of blood, it is really important that this is checked by your GP as soon as possible.
7. Erectile problems
This can include difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection, painful ejaculation, blood in the semen and decreased volume of ejaculation.
The expert adds: ‘If you’re displaying these symptoms, don’t panic. These can all be caused by other problems, and many are just temporary symptoms. All the same, it’s still a good idea to speak to your GP about any concerns you may have as soon as possible, so they can investigate further.’
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These 7 travel buys made my economy long-haul flights feel bearable
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Planning your next long-haul holiday but can’t stand the thought of those endless, uncomfortable flights?
Between crying babies, cramped conditions and uncomfortable seats (not to mention the person next to you with the pointiest elbows known to man), economy flying can take a toll on even the most resilient of travellers.
I’ve recently just come back from a trip to Sri Lanka, with each leg there and back consisting of two arduous six-hour flights – and while to some that might not sound too bad, living through it is no walk in the park.
Being a fairly seasoned traveller, however, I’ve learned there’s a few things I can invest in that’ll totally change how my flights go, helping to ensure I get at least a few hours kip and feel decently comfortable while I do.
From revolutionary neck pillows to the one tool that means you never have to use a flimsy pair of plane headphones again, I’ve found some of the best product hacks that’ll make you dread flights that bit less.
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I’d always wanted to try the trtl neck pillow but only got around to it on my most recent trip. Needless to say, I’ve been totally missing out by not having this in my travel repertoire earlier.
This clever, adjustable neck pillow is nothing like the U-shaped pillows of times gone by (which, by the way, I never found to be comfortable), instead featuring a patented, wrap-around design that keeps your head upright as you nap.
That means that you’re not left with any painful cricks in your neck or a sore back after an awkward snooze. Instead, you’re supported and comfortable all flight long – even if you’ve got the middle seat. Total game-changer.
If, like me, you love having your legs up on your chair and hate that restless feeling in your legs when you can’t get them up (like when you’re on an endless plane journey), then you need to invest in a plane footrest.
Totally affordable but transformative for long and short flights alike, an airplane footrest will help to take the stress and weight off your knees and back, supporting your feet for unparalleled relief.
In truth, part of me thought this rest would be a gimmick when I packed it in my hand luggage. I’ve never eaten my words so heartily.
It’s as easy as slipping it over your tray table and getting comfy, and I found myself so much better prepared for sleep and relaxation when I had the ability to bring up my legs.
Better yet, its compact and easy to slip in your bag. I honestly couldn’t fly without this anymore. 10/10.
Sick of crumby plane headphones that leave movie audio purely to the imagination? Sorry, but I simply can’t relate anymore now I have this super-clever piece of tech.
This adapter is designed to seamlessly connect any Bluetooth headphones or earbuds to your in-flight entertainment system, allowing you to use your own, likely better quality and more comfortable headphones on the plane TV.
With just a touch of a button, I can connect my noise-cancelling AirPods and really properly enjoy my plane movies. There’s not much else to say apart from this one is an essential in my travel kit now.
Related to the above, this pair of Apple AirPods with Active Noise Cancellation changed the game when it comes to travel.
Planes are notoriously loud, which can be a drag when you’re trying to have a zizz or watch some in-flight entertainment.
These AirPods, however, boast pretty sensational noise cancelling, meaning I can block out all the unwanted noise from the flight (screaming baby three rows behind, I’m looking at you) and catch a few winks or watch Bridget Jones again in utter peace.
The fact that the audio quality is second to none is just an added bonus.
Never underestimate the power of a really good face mask like this one from Drowsy.
Totally blocking out the light while remaining silky soft and cushioned against your face, it creates the perfect environment for a great, undisturbed sleep – even if the person in the window seat insists that it stay open all flight long.
Ideal for longer lashes or those who hate sleep masks pressing against the eye, this Drowsy mask has fully contoured eyecups that block off light while keeping your eye area protected. Made with mulberry silk for total luxury, it’s a must in my travel repertoire.
Plus, this mask combined with noise-cancelling AirPods, trtl neck pillow and footrest? Chef’s kiss.
Sometimes on those long flights you need just a shred of semblance of things being normal – and keeping your oral hygiene up us a great way to do just that.
I’ve loved the SURI Electric Toothbrush for a while now thanks to its excellent cleaning power and near-endless battery life (one charge lasted me three weeks in Sri Lanka).
But it’s the handy case that makes it so perfect for travel. Sleek and compact, it not only keeps your brush safe and sound, but, when plugged in, charges your brush as well. Huge win for those post plane-dinner brushes.
If you’re anything like me, planes dry you out like nothing else. It’s the artificial, AC air that does it, and my lips are usually first to fall victim to its moisture-stealing ways.
I always make sure to have an E45 Lips & Dry Skin Lip Balm on me when I hop on the plane now, as its deeply softening and moisturising properties rescue dry lips (and any other dry areas on your face and body) in a flash.
With these must-haves you’re guaranteed better, more restful and far more comfortable flights henceforth. You’re welcome.
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Watching the colour drain from my mum’s and wife’s faces, I felt an overwhelming sense of guilt.
It was like I was watching them being told I was dead already.
I’d been having chest pains for a couple of days, but instead of being concerned, I’d continuously put it down to stress. It was only after my wife kept on at me to go to hospital and get it checked that I finally discovered the truth…
‘You’re having a heart attack,’ said the doctor.
I remember asking him whether I was going to be alright, to which he just looked at me and said: ‘I can’t promise you that.’
At that moment I made a silent promise to myself to quit smoking, for good.
Growing up, I never saw smoking as a problem. My parents, grandparents and friends all did it so it’s no wonder I took up the habit when I was 15.
But what started as a social habit, only smoking when around friends, soon became an addiction – even if I didn’t want to admit it.
By my late thirties, I smoked at least 30 cigarettes a day and, though I could generally keep up with my peers, I was starting to have issues with my breathing.
Ever since I’d had a large section of my right lung removed at the age of three, I’d always had problems in this area. But lately, the breathlessness was worse than usual.
Over the next decade my lung health continued to decline until, aged 41, I was diagnosed with Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disorder (COPD) – a common condition that mainly affects middle-aged or older adults who smoke.
Having COPD meant I couldn’t clear my airway properly, which led to a build-up of excess mucus that in turn gave me a persistent cough and meant I suffered recurring chest infections.
The one thing that would have eased my symptoms would have been to quit smoking, so I tried using Nicotine Replacement Therapy (NRT).
However, as soon as I experienced any type of stress, I’d turn back to cigarettes. ‘One’s not going to hurt me,’ I’d think. Before I knew it though I’d have smoked a pack of 20.
Each time I lapsed, I blamed myself, thinking I’d failed so what was the point in carrying on?
Two years later, my COPD was worse than ever. I struggled for oxygen and it impacted my daily life – I’d get breathless getting out of the bath and even struggled to get ready in the morning.
I vividly remember being sat on the bed trying to put a pair of socks on but I needed to stop and catch my breath while doing so.
It was humiliating.
Around that same time, my first grandchild was born. Yet despite being a ‘young’ grandad, I just couldn’t keep up as I didn’t have the energy.
I knew I had to make changes and went back to the doctors to try to quit again. I managed to go cold turkey for a couple of weeks but that’s as long as it lasted and soon, I felt like I was back to square one.
Then at the age of 48, I started having those chest pains.
At the hospital, doctor’s said the pains were actually a heart attack, not indigestion as I had believed and I was shocked – my experience was nothing like the sudden pain and clutching of the chest that’s depicted on TV and in films.
Then, seeing the terrified looks on my loved ones faces, I felt an overwhelming sense of guilt. I’d done this to myself, I was in this position because I’d refused to quit smoking.
I was transferred to James Cook University Hospital soon after where I had three stents fitted. Doctors told me afterwards it had been touch and go for a while as to whether I’d survive the surgery as my smoking was making every organ, including my heart, have to work much harder.
Even though I’d already made my silent promise, I knew then I had to do better.
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Before my heart attack, I used to roll my eyes at anybody who asked me whether I smoked because I thought I was doing other things to protect myself, like eating healthily. But nearly dying made me realise how important health is.
I had three grandchildren at the time, and I knew I needed, and wanted, to be around for them for a long time to come.
Now, I’ve been smokefree for 18 months and my health has improved beyond my dreams.
This time around I used a vape to help me quit – when I got cravings, I used that instead of returning to old habits – and I’m a lot less stressed because I finally feel I’m in control instead of the cigarettes controlling me.
I’ve even had the chance to star in a TV ad for a regional quit smoking campaign, which is something I never thought I’d do. But, if hearing my story gives just one person the motivation to quit then I’ve done my job.
Best of all though, I now feel better than ever.
I’m enjoying life again and am even able to play on the beach with my grandkids without getting breathless. I’m so pleased I get to be here with them and make those precious memories.
Smoking is one of the most lethal addictions of all but I know how hard quitting can be.
The important thing to remember is that there is lots of support out there to help you to quit. No matter how many times you have tried before, you should never treat a blip as a failure – just try something else and keep going.
I never thought I’d be able to stop, but now I have and it’s the best thing I ever did.
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Faith Burke was just 20 when she found herself on the front line of the Covid pandemic.
As a trainee pharmacist assistant in Wiltshire, she worked 10-hour shifts during a time of intense demand, staff shortages, supply chain issues, and a very real risk of exposure to the virus. Despite the problems, it was a job she loved – a stepping stone to her dream career as a paramedic.
When her employers told Faith that all staff would need a vaccine or alternatively, would have to be gloved, masked and aproned up for the entirety of every shift, she agreed to take the 1.5-hour round trip to visit one of the few centres offering the first jabs.
‘I assumed it would be safe because the Government said it would be, ‘ Faith tells Metro. Despite her confidence, it didn’t stop her parents from expressing their concerns. ‘They were asking: “Do you really think you need it? You’re healthy. Do you want to just wait until the rest of your age category have it?”‘ she remembers.
‘But I didn’t want to be the odd one out at work and at the time, it felt like there was social pressure,’ Faith, now 24, adds. ‘If you didn’t have the vaccine, you were treated almost like a leper. People were unfriend-ing people on Facebook who didn’t have it.’
So on Friday 15 January 2021, she stood in a socially-distanced queue, feeling very conspicuous among the octogenarians alongside her and rolled up her sleeve. The injection passed by without event, and Faith went to work as usual.
‘My legs were covered in lumps and hives’
By the time she got home that evening, Faith had begun to to feel itchy all over her body. She was able to mostly forget about it and enjoy a ‘normal weekend’, however, by Monday morning, her ailments became unignorable.
While at work, Faith remembers that her hands began to hurt and swell to such a degree that she couldn’t move her fingers or hold a pen. Her legs also became covered in hives and lumps appeared on her arm. So, she went to see a pharmacist who told her she was likely having an allergic reaction and advised antihistamines.
Faith took the advised medication but the swelling worsened and she began to experience ‘crushing, aching’ chest pain. When she had to undo her shoelaces to make room for her swollen feet, Faith finally decided it was time to go home.
There, she called a health advisor on 111, who advised her to go to the hospital. Her mum drove her straight there but waited in the car due to Covid restrictions, and Faith was admitted to hospital alone.
She was initially told she might have Kawasaki disease, a serious illness which causes inflammation of the blood vessels and can affect the heart, but less than 24 hours later, Faith was reassured again that it was an allergic reaction.
Yet, her body continued to deteriorate; she was breathless, with hands ‘like rubber gloves’ and covered in rashes.
‘My lips swelled up badly and by the third day, it looked like I had horns coming out of my forehead due to swollen lumps,’ Faith recalls. ‘During the night I was struggling to breathe so they gave me a shot of adrenalin.’
There was so much going on, she says she didn’t have a chance to feel scared, but grew convinced that her vaccination had something to do with her symptoms. When she tried to share her views, Faith says she was quickly shut down.
Finding out the cause
‘The nurses said: “Don’t tell anyone on this ward that you think it was the vaccine because you don’t know that and shouldn’t spread misinformation.”’,’ she claims.
Faith complied but when her curtains were pulled closed for the evening, she says she overheard a conversation she was never meant to be privy to. ‘I remember a nurse saying to her colleague, “I’m getting my vaccine tomorrow, and I don’t want to get it now I’ve seen her, I’m a bit nervous.”’
After five days Faith was sent home. A rheumatologist told her she was likely to be suffering from reactive arthritis following the vaccine, and prescribed steroids, vowing she’d be ‘right as rain before long’.
But Faith not right as rain. Three years later, she says she is now disabled and struggles with pain, brain fog, breathlessness, headaches and fatigue. She’s gone from dancing competitively and working out at the gym three times a week, to barely managing a short dog walk.
Her symptoms correlate with a little-understood, persistent condition, referred to as post-vaccination syndrome. She is one of a number of people speaking out about their experiences on behalf of charity UKCVFamily.
Facing the future
Faith’s work has also been impacted, leaving her feeling she had no choice but to leave the pharmacy and her dream to be a paramedic. She moved on to an estate agency, assuming it would put less stress on her body, but after two years she resigned, and now works in her mum’s gift shop.
‘My long-term plan has been completely wiped, which is pretty rubbish,’ says Faith. But it’s not just work that’s been affected, as she feels she can no longer be the adventurous friend she once was, going nightclubbing every weekend and enjoying spontaneous trips. Her predicament has put a strain on relationships, adds Faith.
‘I feel like a friend that always poo-poos everything,’ she explains.
‘My life has been pretty much ruined, and there’s no end to it. If they diagnosed and treated me, it might have just cost me my early 20s. I could have dealt with that, but how long will this go on? Will it be forever?’
Faith is now on a waiting list to see an endocrinologist – a medical specialist who treats people with conditions that are caused by problems with endocrine glands and hormones – but until then, she has to take it very easy.
She has reported the reaction under the Yellow Card scheme which safeguards medical products’ quality and efficacy in the United Kingdom, as did her pharmacy and doctor. Faith says she doesn’t want compensation but instead wants people to know what happened.
‘People just don’t understand. One doctor told me I was too young to label myself as disabled, and that I just needed to get myself out of it, mentally. I cried after the appointment,’ she remembers.
‘For the first three years, I was positive, because I’d assumed it would get better. But in the last six months, there’s been a noticeable difference where I’m getting frustrated. As I’ve gotten more ill, I get a lot more annoyed, upset, and emotionally fragile.
‘There are still people out there calling me anti-vax – but I’m not,’ she emphasises. ‘I never have been. I had all my inoculations through school and I understand that we had to do something to slow the spread of the virus, but I do regret having this vaccine.
‘I am such a positive person who usually says there’s no point in wishing that you hadn’t done something, because you can’t change the past – but if I could turn back time, I wouldn’t do it again.’
Covid-19 vaccinations
Faith’s experience was rare and unfortunate. In 2021 alone, Covid-19 vaccines saved at least an estimated 14.4 million lives worldwide, according to the World Health Organisation.
A spokesperson for Pfizer said: ‘Patient safety is paramount and we take any reports of adverse events very seriously. Adverse event reports do not imply causality, and in the context of vaccination, such events may be unrelated to the administration of the vaccine. Hundreds of millions of doses of the Pfizer-BioNTech Covid-19 vaccine have been administered globally and the benefit-risk profile of the vaccine remains positive for all authorised indications and age groups.
‘As with every medicine and vaccine, including the Pfizer-BioNTech COVID-19 vaccine, Pfizer has robust processes to meet its regulatory responsibilities to closely monitor, report and analyse all adverse events, and collect relevant information to assess any new potential safety risks that may be associated with the Covid-19 vaccine. In addition to our pharmacovigilance efforts and compliance with regulatory requirements related to quality and safety, we also work with regulatory authorities around the world as they independently monitor the safety profile of our vaccine.
‘Patients who receive the Covid-19 vaccine should talk to their doctor, pharmacist or nurse if they have any concerns or experience any side effects. This includes any possible side effects not listed in the package leaflet. Side effects can be reported directly via the Yellow Card Scheme here.’