I looked down at the whirring hair dryer in my hand, perplexed. 

I was a hairdresser – I spent my days styling and cutting hair, but suddenly my right arm felt so weak, I couldn’t hold the hair dryer up a second longer. It was as if it were made of lead. 

At first, I thought I’d slept funny. Or maybe I was getting older and weaker – especially since it was the lightest dryer on the market.

I knew at that moment that something really wasn’t right. 

It wasn’t the first time I’d had trouble with my strength. The signs had started six months earlier when I couldn’t push myself out of the bath easily.

I’d been struggling to hold the hair dryer for long periods, and on one occasion, my colleague had noticed my arm twitching. 

I shrugged these moments off, putting them down to stress, being 55 years old, maybe even the menopause.

It was only when, on that same day, my speech started to slur that I knew something wasn’t right. 

The fear began to creep in. I googled my symptoms and the first thing that came up was Stephen Hawking. That was when the dread truly settled in. I couldn’t bring myself to tell anyone, other than my best friend – I was terrified.

A few days later – on August 22 2021 – I rang my GP to discuss my symptoms of vertigo. That’s when she told me to call 999, and that I was having a stroke.

Terrified, I went to hospital and went through six months of endless tests: blood work, MRIs, lumber puncture and scans.

Then there were the misdiagnoses. First they thought it was menopause. Then a stroke. Then multiple sclerosis.

Finally, one day in September 2022, the neurologist delivered the unthinkable news: ‘You have motor neurone disease’. 

I was told that 50% of people with MND die within three years; 90% within 10. There’s no cure and nothing to slow it down.

In the moments that followed, my first thought was of my children. I’m a single mum to three grown kids and I’ve always been their rock, their support. But at that moment, all I could think about was that I might not be there for them much longer.

I was terrified of leaving them to face life without me. 

Three years on, I’m one of the ‘lucky’ ones who have made it this far – but I can feel myself deteriorating every day, asking for more help. 

Now, I can no longer dress myself, cook for myself, or even get out of bed on my own. 

My arms are completely paralysed, my fingers are curling and I can’t lift my head without help. My torso and neck are losing strength, and I can’t even stand on my own anymore. 

My lung strength is down to 50%, so I rely on a machine to help me breathe at night, and I choke every time I eat. And just recently, I’ve had the operation for a PEG tube to feed me because swallowing will become impossible.

The thing I dread every day is when my voice will go, because I don’t know how I will express myself, or tell my family I love them.

It breaks my heart to think about my children one day having to care for me in ways I never imagined. 

As their mother, I’ve always been their protector. Now, I’m the one who needs their help. 

My children have been so strong. I’ve had the discussion that I don’t want them to put their lives on hold just because of me but that I will fight this for as long as I can. They understand, but watching silently while the person they love deteriorates is traumatic. 

When I explain my condition to people, they often ask, ‘Oh, you’ve got MS, right?’ They don’t know what MND is, or how brutal it is. 

This is a disease that takes everything from you, slowly – and the fact that people don’t even understand what it is hurts just as much as the disease itself.

Among my own social circle, I know eight other women hairdressers with MND. These women – daughters, mothers, friends, wives – are all being forgotten in this fight, as we feel that too much of the MND focus is around men, particularly elite sportsmen. 

When I was diagnosed, I vowed to make a difference. I wanted my story to be something that raised awareness. So last year I started a Facebook support group for women with MND called MND QUEENS. 

It’s a group for women with and, who have been affected by MND. We support each other, talk about MND care, menopause, treatment equipment, our families, accessibility, mental health and so much more. We even have our own t-shirts!

I’ve also worked with the MND Association on their #teammnda campaign, as well as fundraising for research and advocacy.

The association has really helped me since being diagnosed, but it is significantly underfunded. 

No one should have to go through what I’m going through, left to watch my body deteriorate, one part at a time. 

We need to do more. 

The more that people understand what this disease does to people, the more money we can raise to find a cure. So I write this not for sympathy, but to raise awareness, and to make sure my children know that I fought to find that cure. 

Because no one should ever have to hear those words: ‘You have MND’ – and I will fight to the end for people living with this disease. 

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If you’re deep in the midst of No-Nut November, you may want to reconsider – if not for your sanity, but to reduce your risk of prostate cancer.

Research actually shows that ejaculating as much as once every day can really limit the chances, while another study suggests a staggering 21 orgasms a month reduces a man’s likelihood of prostate cancer by 20%.

This comes as scientists recently revealed global deaths from the disease are likely to double in the next 20 years.

Orgasming 21 times a month yields impressive results for disease prevention, compared to men who come just four to seven times a month, who have a higher chance of getting prostate cancer.

The study, published in European Urology followed 32,000 men for 18 years and found that the more they came, the lower the risk of cancer.

Harvard Medical School and Brigham and Women Hospital scientists also found men reap the benefits from ‘me time’ or wet dreams, with daily ejaculation proving an effective form of masturbation or intercourse.

We wish we could tell you why this is the case but the experts aren’t exactly sure. They have theorised though, and Dr. Anne Calvaresi, the chair of the Urology Care Foundation’s Prostate Health Committee, suggests ejaculation may protect the prostate by flushing out harmful chemicals that build up in semen.

She also explains it is possible men who ejaculate more may have healthier lifestyle habits that decrease their odds of being diagnosed with the disease.

So, if you’re looking to up your orgasm quota, we’ve enlisted the help of Dr Gigi Engle, certified sexologist and sex expert at sextoys.co.uk, to give you some interesting ways to spice up your solo masturbation.

First step first, Gigi says to get the prostate involved and it’s something you can do solo or with your other half.

‘Men can have prostate orgasms without stimulation to the penis. The orgasm from your prostate is a full body orgasm, and you feel a tingly sensation all over,’ Gigi explains.

‘To reach it, you insert a finger or toy into the rectum, hooking up towards the belly button. The prostate feels like a rough-textured gland. The receiving partner may enjoy a variety of different types of prostate stimulation – varying from circular motions, to in-and-out penetration. It’s highly subjective and different people enjoy different things.’

Next Gigi suggests using a masturbation sleeve and recommends the Tenga Flex.

‘It has a ribbed and grooved design to help men enjoy masturbation to the fullest extent. This toy has all the manoeuvrability of jelly toys, with much easier disinfection and better quality material. Simply apply lubricant, and slip the sleeve over your member,’ says Gigi.

If you find you’re flagging a little, take yourself into a different room rather than the bedroom because different surroundings can really help your sex drive.

Gigi explains: ‘The bedroom might be the simplest place to get it on, but a change of scenery can really up the fire on your sexual mood.

‘Going outside the bedroom can give us taste of the unknown that we crave. Humans really need novelty to keep their sexual interest high.’

This article was originally published April 13, 2024.

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Katrine Martinussen couldn’t imagine a life without her husband Stephan after he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. So the couple made an extraordinary decision and quickly started work on a truly unique project

After 47-year-old Staci Marklin gave birth in 2022, she started to experience memory loss.

Initially, she put this down to her pregnancy and post-partum ‘mum brain,’ but when she started to struggle with her speech and mix up words, she worried that there was something seriously wrong.

The 47-year-old, who is a former nurse living in Knoxville, Tennessee, finds it hard to recall exactly when her symptoms started.

‘I initially brushed off the forgetfulness on pregnancy and postpartum mum brain. I would say stuff like “move the carpet” instead of “move the curtain,”‘ she says. ‘It’s such a hard thing to believe at such a young age.’

Almost two years later, though, she was still struggling. For the first time, she seriously started to consider the prospect that she could be living with Alzheimer’s, as her grandma was previously diagnosed with it.

However, after she took herself to the doctor’s, she was initially reassured that her chances of having early-onset dementia were relatively low. She was told it would be ‘rare’ at her age, considering that just one in around 13 people living with Alzheimer’s are under the age of 65.

But as her symptoms began to worsen even further, even impacting her working life and forgetting her son’s birthday, Staci underwent a series of tests.

Initially, the MRIs, EEG and blood tests flagged as normal, but in October 2024, further tests revealed that her blood markers were indeed indicative of Alzheimer’s disease.

She reflects: ‘There would be times when things would just disappear from my brain. Someone once asked me about a co-worker, and I had absolutely no idea who they were talking about.

‘I could tell it was someone I should know by the way they were talking. It was a few days later when I realised it was a co-worker that I had worked really closely with.’

By the time she received the tests, she’d already stopped her work as she ‘knew something was wrong.’ The tests revealed that her cognitive function level was in the bottom zero to 10% expected for her age group – and she instantly knew what this meant for her.

‘I was with my husband at the time and we were in shock. We cried together and knew nothing would ever be the same again,’ she says.

Following her diagnosis, Staci has had to deal with people disbelieving her, largely since the disease is often misbranded as exclusively for older people.

‘The stigma that is associated with this disease is also problematic. People generally see this as an older person’s disease and view people with Alzheimer’s as if they can’t do anything for themselves,’ she shares.

‘It was difficult for me to get people to believe me and to trust the results.’

With a tough future ahead of her and her family, Staci has already started to make plans, making videos on TikTok for her family to remember her by, which includes her now three-year-old son, Gunnar, her 46-year-old husband Erik, and her 21-year-old stepdaughter Rylee.

She’s also been prescribed a new medication, lecanemab, which is specifically used to treat early-onset Alzheimer’s, comprised of bi-monthly infusions. They’re designed to remove harmful plaques in the brain.

Conducted over the course of 18 months, one previous study concluded that this specific treatment effectively slowed cognitive decline in patients, and Staci is hoping for a similar trajectory.

‘All I can do is hope, but I’m scared. I’m scared that my three-year-old will grow up without his mom,’ Staci told her followers in one TikTok video.

‘I’m scared that he’ll cry and I won’t be there to comfort him. I’m scared that my husband will grow old without me. The list goes on, but I choose to be positive, and I have hope. That’s all I can do.’

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I love to quaff pink wine all year round, and I won’t apologise for it.

And since when has it made sense to pack away gluggable bottles of pink come November, just because it’s supposedly a ‘spring/summer’ drink?

It’s mind-blowing that so many people I speak to say they quit rosé at the start of winter, only to take it back up again in spring the following year. They might as well be talking about their swimming costumes. And have you ever noticed, you don’t catch the same people banishing bottles of Chablis or New Zealand Sauvignon Blanc into hibernation over the winter?

Exactly, because they’re too busy chugging them.

The whole thing is baffling to me, given that rosé is the probably most versatile style of wine to match with the Christmas turkey and trimmings. It also goes startlingly well with smoked salmon, turkey curry and any other festive food items you care to throw at it. And if that wasn’t enough, try it with tapas, Thai curry and anything with a lick of chilli heat and you’ll be fully converted.

But, at last, it seems people are finally cottoning on. According to Ocado, searches for ‘rosé’ are up by 32% compared to this time last year, and sales of rosé are up by 25%.

And here’s some breaking news from M&S; the week before Christmas 2024, rosé sales were DOUBLE those of their biggest week over the summer. They sold 144,000 bottles of rosé in the week commencing the 6^th July, whereas the week commencing 16^th December they flogged a whopping 286,000 bottles. Granted, 68% of the festive figures was sparkling rosé, but still.

So, I was intrigued to learn that this year, M&S have re-released their rosé mulled wine after a 10-year hiatus. And with comments on social media like ‘I need this. Like. Right now’ by @stephies.world and ‘It’s absolutely delicious – I’ve already bought 6 bottles’ from @hsullivan2, it seems people are, literally, thirsting over it.

Bear in mind, this is a drink that wasn’t popular when it first came out, hence it was axed shortly after its original launch due to poor performance. But, 10 years ago we weren’t ready for a winter rosé of any description, let alone a mulled version. But, with the surge in demand for rosé during the colder months, coupled with the success of their pioneering White Mulled Wine, released last year (which I taste tested and scored in my mulled wine column), the timing feels right.

Gemma Wright, trading manager for Wine at M&S Food, said: ‘We’ve definitely seen rosé become a customer favourite all year round. Shoppers are choosing rosé in winter because it works really well with the kinds of food people serve at Christmas. It’s also a lighter, more refreshing option if you don’t fancy a red.’

Without further ado then, here is my review of M&S’s Rosé Mulled Wine, plus some other M&S pink-spiration for winter. And though I didn’t taste test them alongside a mince pie, or five, I will be doing so in December.

M&S Rosé Mulled Wine, Germany, £6

Bravo to the blending team behind this. They have somehow achieved that precarious balance between sweet and spicy, landing on a drink with enough rosé attributes to be recognisable (dry peach, apricot and Mirabelle plum), but with the judicious addition of vanilla, orange and spice. While many supermarket mulled wines are like sipping a liquid sweetshop, this is a deliciously grown-up drink. Believe the hype.

M&S Colle del Principe Pinot Grigio Blush, Italy, £7

Here’s a fun fact, Pinot Grigio is actually a red grape. Well, it’s got pink-coloured skin, anyway. Hence, it can make ethereal, pastel pink rosés like this one. Here we have a dry and fruity pink with ripe notes of cantaloupe melon, Red Lady apple and a burst of blood orange on the finish. It also has a light suggestion of oregano which, you guessed it, makes it a perfect partner to a pepperoni pizza.

M&S Rosé D’Anjou, France, £7.50

Dig out something a bit spicy to accompany this. Why? Because there’s a lovely off-dryness to this delicate rosé, which makes it a slam dunk with South East Asian dishes. The traditional process of making Rosé d’Anjou involves stopping the fermentation early, leaving some of the sugar that would have been converted into alcohol. The wine hails from the Loire Valley in France, and flavour-wise is popping with red apple and cherry flavours.  

M&S Classics No.22 Cotes de Provence Rosé, France, £10

I love the M&S Classics selection, endlessly, as it delivers good quality, affordable wines from traditional regions. This rosé majors on the Cinsault grape, which is generally in the Provençale blend, but typically, not in as high proportions. The result is a juicy pink with pillowy strawberry notes over pithy blood orange and a soupcon of gorse bush, and I’m hardcore here for it.

M&S Bramble Hill Rosé Sparkling, England, £15

This affordable sparkling is made by Silverhand Estate, based near Gravesend in Kent. It’s made via the Charmat method of producing the bubbles, same as Prosecco, where the second fermentation takes place in a pressurised tank. A blend of Bacchus, Pinot Noir and Pinot Meunier, the result is a fruity, frothy-and-fun fizz that tastes of strawberry sherbet and summer fruits.   

Fumbling with the buttons on my shirt, then with a pen as I attempted to write a simple shopping list, I felt useless and frightened.

At the same time, there was a painful prickling sensation in my feet and a constant noise in my ears – a kind of buzzing, sizzling sound that made it impossible to concentrate.

In that moment, I knew how it felt to have dementia, and I wanted it to end. 

Luckily for me, the experience – a virtual simulation which has been designed to replicate dementia symptoms – only lasted three minutes.

After that, I could leave and things would go back to normal. 

But actually, when it was over, things didn’t go completely back to normal.

Because I was left with a whole new understanding of how dementia can make you feel.

The simulator is part of a training exercise organised by Music for Dementia, whose Music Made Easy campaign wants to improve music accessibility for people living with dementia.

It involved fitting me with a range of equipment: massive gloves that made me unable to feel shapes correctly or hold onto things properly, glasses which eliminated my peripheral vision, prickly insoles that simulated foot pain and headphones that created constant noise.

After using the simulator, I was left with a feeling of horror. I felt lost and lonely. I desperately didn’t want to get dementia.

And I felt so much empathy. 

Now, I want more professionals, friends and families to do this training to ensure we give our loved ones living with dementia the best care possible. 

Before doing this exercise, my understanding of dementia was very basic. I knew that it could affect speech and memory, and that music can help people with dementia relax.

My aunt has vascular dementia and it’s been heartbreaking to watch someone so sharp and so loved falling apart, while still believing they’re completely with it.

Within our extended family, her diagnosis seemed sudden, but it had probably been developing for years without us noticing. 

She’d had foot pain two years ago that we didn’t manage to address – not realising it was a neurological issue, we had taken her to a physio, who thought it might be plantar fasciitis.

She was also always forgetting names, repeating familiar phrases, and had a few falls, which we dismissed as just being typical of what she was like.

Her diagnostic journey has been incredibly challenging and though many experts are involved, each has different opinions, and we still don’t really have the whole picture.

She’s not currently on a treatment plan. Because she doesn’t believe she’s not well, she’s refusing to go on any medication. 

It’s exhausting trying to access help for her when she doesn’t want it. 

Plus, I can’t help but think that many of her A&E visits for panic attacks and falls could perhaps have been avoided if her condition had been managed with proper medication sooner.

While it’s a tiring battle for my uncle and family, I have to remember it’s probably more terrifying for my aunt.

I don’t think I ever truly appreciated how scary this condition is until I was offered the chance to try the simulation.

After starting it, I was challenged to complete everyday tasks like writing a shopping list, buttoning a shirt and using my phone. 

I began to struggle almost immediately.

With the gloves on, I couldn’t hold a pencil, let alone write. 

Buttoning up clothing was impossible and I remember thinking that, if I was fumbling this badly every day, I doubt I would bother eating, washing up or even going into a kitchen.

Meanwhile, the restricted vision meant I couldn’t see things coming from the side. 

That’s why, when one of the training instructors approached me, I jumped, as he seemed to come from nowhere.

He then tried to spoon-feed me. It was so disconcerting and invasive, I desperately tried to bat him away. 

Suddenly I understood how vulnerable my aunt must feel.

I had always considered myself empathetic and caring and thought I was behaving appropriately with my aunt, but now I know better.

Of course, I was aware dementia caused confusion.

I didn’t know about losing fine motor skills, being unable to dress yourself, having to rely on others to feed and clothe you, and take you to the toilet and all while experiencing restrictive eyesight, foot pain, hand numbness and continuous noise.

It’s a far tougher and more extreme reality than I’d ever imagined.

Now, when I’m with my aunt, I’m more considered in the way I act around her. 

I listen without confusing her with quick conversation, and I repeat calming information she wants to know, even if i’ve already said it. 

I also make sure conversation isn’t too wide or varied, and I offer to get everything for her, which brings her relief when she’s forgotten where things are. 

These are all things I would never have known to do, were it not for the simulation.

Around one million professionals working in the NHS, adult social care and emergency services have received dementia awareness training, but I’d like to see more people being given the chance to experience this particular simulation. 

In fact, I think we need to educate everyone about caring, tolerance and potential limitations so they can manage situations with older family members better.  

I’d also like to see mandatory training for carers about how to support people living with dementia. 

For my part, I try to share what I’ve learned as much as possible. 

Because even though my experience only lasted three minutes, it’s helped me make changes that will last a lifetime – and they are simple changes we can all make.

Approach people with dementia head on, not from the side. 

Offer to help if they’re struggling with something fiddly. 

Always explain what you’re doing and do it slowly. And treat people with respect, dignity and kindness – because remember, one day, it could be you.

Do you have a story you’d like to share? Get in touch by emailing Ross.Mccafferty@metro.co.uk. 

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Experts say we’re in an ‘ick epidemic’ among the dating world – and now the UK’s biggest turn-off has been revealed, that’s seeing more and more people dumping their dates

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If you’ve been drooling over the TikTok-viral Eye Tint Liquid Eyeshadows from Armani but you’re balking at the price, this £11 alternative may answer your beauty prayers. 

Morphe’s latest drop, a collection of creamy eyeshadows, gives you the same velvety, pigmented finish for nearly two-thirds less. 

After beauty fans on social media went crazy for the £32 Armani Eye Tints, the hunt began for a more affordable, equally fantastic alternative. And boy, did we find one!

Costing just £11 (a whole £21 cheaper) Morphe’s Solo Artist Priming Cream Eyeshadows have won fans over with their rich pigment, smooth texture and impressive staying power.

Morphe Solo Artist Priming Cream Eyeshadow

Formulated with nourishing sunflower oil, shea butter and peptides to reduce puffiness and care for the skin, Morphe’s Solo Artist Priming Cream Eyeshadow are a must-have for a neutral eye or creating a base for more maximalist makeup looks. Available in seven skin-tone shades, they’re totally smudge and crease-proof and last all day. 

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Formulated with a blend of peptides that help repair skin and reduce puffiness, as well as nourishing shea butter and sunflower oil, these shadows are particularly great for those with fine lines around the eyes or people who often find their eyeshadow goes a little dry and chalky. 

Available in seven gorgeous skin-tone shades, each shadow pot gives the eyes a wash of soft-matte colour. Just choose a deeper tone to create that smoky, sexy eye look. 

What’s worth mentioning is that because the shadows have been specifically designed to be used as primers for any eyeshadow pigments placed on top, they’re made to not crease or smudge. 

They’re also totally waterproof and never going to let you down, even in the rain or those more emotional days…

Like Armani’s Eye Tints, they glide on like a dream. They’re soft, buttery, and super easy to blend – making them perfect for creating a flawless base or wearing solo for a paired-back neutral look.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re a makeup minimalist or love layering bold colours, these cream shadows hold everything in place without fading or flaking off throughout the day.

Beauty insiders are already calling them the best budget-friendly alternative, too, writing: ‘Luxurious, at an affordable price.’

So, if you want that luxe finish without the luxe price, Morphe might just be your new go-to.

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Winter can leave you feeling sluggish, low on energy, and generally a bit meh. One of the easiest ways to feel better? Looking after your gut. 

Research suggests that a happy, balanced gut can help with digestion, boost your mood, and keep your energy up when the days are short and dark – to name a just a few.

And that’s exactly what Hip Pop and its delicious, gut-boosting kombucha and soft drinks are all about.

The brand’s delicious fizzy drinks are made with real fruit, live cultures, contain a hit of fibre and absolutely no sweeteners but taste great and actually do good for your body. 

And right now is the perfect time to try as Hip Pop is currently offering 12 cans for £12 – that’s over 50% off the usual £28.99 price! 

Hip Pop Trial Case 

Try a mix of 12 delicious, gut-friendly fizzy drinks made with real fruit, live cultures, fibre, and no sweeteners. Inside you’ll find a mix of Hip Pop’s best-selling soda or kombucha. Normally priced at £28.99, this whole case can be yours for just £12 in this unmissable deal.

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Shop the winter Trial Case and you’ll receive a mix of their best-selling Soda or Kombucha (your choice), delivered straight to your door.

Kombucha, one of Hip Pop’s best-selling drinks, isn’t just tasty – it’s packed with probiotics, antioxidants, and natural enzymes that support digestion, balance your gut microbiome, and even give you a natural energy boost.

It’s like a little wellness upgrade in every can – made with real fruit, live cultures and no sweeteners, so you can be sure every sip does good.

One of our favourite Hip Pop Kombucha flavours? Apple and Elderflower – a zingy, refreshing blend that makes a great alcohol-free tipple. Mind you, the fruity Strawberry and Pineapple blend is pretty tasty too!

We have more good news if you’re on your health and fitness journey. Hip Pop has collaborated with ClassPass to give you even more incentive to treat your gut well and live better.

As well as receiving a free ClassPass trial when you snap up the Trial Case, when you scan your can or shop online, you’ll collect free wellness credits to use at ClassPass, too.

So, whether your kombucha stash needs a top-up or you’re looking to swap out sugary sodas for something a bit healthier, Hip Pop is the can to reach for.

Gut-friendly, low in calories and free from sweeteners, it’s a simple way to feel a little better while enjoying a tasty drink this winter.

New customers will receive free shipping, too. Love the Hip Pop drinks you receive? After your 12-can trial, a 24-can subscription kicks in at £22.50 a month.

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The run up to Christmas is one of the busiest times of year in the dating world, and navigating it can be a real challenge. Thankfully, Mel Schilling, dating expert and star of Married At First Sight, is here to help